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Midge

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #885 on: May 15, 2013, 05:04:37 PM »
I hate the PA digs when someone gets to do something they have planned and saved for. I hear that all the time and marginalize those who indulge in that behavior. We are replacing our 20 year old car, because I can't reliably count on it running well enough to commute in. I am spending my money and what the old car sells for to replace it with something 10 years old. I haven't told anyone because I don't want the gimme hounds starting.

You're getting a new car? *sniff* Must be nice!


(Runs away)

Ha ha! New to me, my dear.

Sorry, just turned into my SIL for a moment!  ;)

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #886 on: May 15, 2013, 07:59:05 PM »
I would like to thank the kind E-Hellion, for it must be an e-hellion, who bought me the winning ticket in the American SuperLotto draw.  I would much prefer to send you my $5.00 and we can share the $50,000000 between us.

fountainsoflettuce

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #887 on: May 16, 2013, 09:12:13 AM »
My husband just told me about a scammer that came to the door last night.  Woman claimed to live in the neighborhood, just down the street.  Her house had a fire.  She's 70 and has a baby but only has enough formula for 2 days and doesn't have enough $ to buy more.  Can we spare some money or formula (but she'd really prefer cash)?  Husband said no. 

Why:
1. We did not recognize her as living in the neighborhood.
2.  There was a house fire 2 blocks away in early January which trapped a woman inside.  She died of her injuries 3 weeks ago.
3.  Woman did not look in her 70's but more like in her 50's.
4.  She really wanted cash.

gramma dishes

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #888 on: May 16, 2013, 09:22:15 AM »
... She's 70 and has a baby but only has enough formula for 2 days and doesn't have enough $ to buy more.  ...


Huh?   ???

ladyknight1

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #889 on: May 16, 2013, 09:37:16 AM »
Hearing about women in their 60's and 70's having children more often now.
ďAll that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."
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nutraxfornerves

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #890 on: May 16, 2013, 09:39:10 AM »
A legit case would be a grandparent raising a baby because the parents are not around. There was a recent profile in our paper of a grandfather who got custody of an infant after the parents were killed.

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fountainsoflettuce

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #891 on: May 16, 2013, 09:44:45 AM »
Yes, my husband also questioned the 70 year old with a baby but then considered maybe she was raising her grandchild.  A pink flag, if you will, among the red flags, in her story.

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« Reply #892 on: May 16, 2013, 09:57:02 AM »
I have one of those relatives on FB who does the must be nice routine when someone talks about a new car or vacation.  To me, that is so rude, like "how dare you have something nice and not give it to me!"  Well, dude..you and your wife decided to have 4 kids right in a row and for her to stay home with them, and they should have the best of the best of video games and toys.  He actually complained how it must be nice for people to have so much when they had to borrow money to put their child in an activity that was known to be very expensive and it's only purpose was for bragging about special child was to be in activity (think reality show activity).  I just laugh because they have posted must be nices on my statuses and I scrape and scrimp and do without the big things to be able to afford certain things for our family to do and they post about their new phones or video game systems.

ladyknight1

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #893 on: May 16, 2013, 09:59:41 AM »
I can relate. If it is the hobby I am thinking of, it is a recurring cost of $$$$ per year.

I thought Scouting was expensive!
ďAll that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."
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heartmug

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #894 on: May 16, 2013, 10:36:22 AM »
While at the gym I saw a news blip on the TV about a man, age 91, who had given his daughter power of attorney in case his health declined. She used it to transfer his home and lands into her name. She started selling off bits of the land and served her father with an eviction notice to get jim out of the house. He's trying to raise some money to offer to her, to buy the deed back.
Despicable.

CRUD MONKEYS!

I'm wondering that he didn't realize his daughter was this kind of person already - granted, parents do look at their kids with rosy tinted glasses.....but you'd think that he would have seen the red flags a decade or two ago.

(This is VorFemme on her first Linux post.)

http://gma.yahoo.com/91-old-man-raises-money-prevent-eviction-daughter-132430362--abc-news-topstories.html

Wow. Just, wow. That's just nasty.

That is so awful!!
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« Reply #895 on: May 16, 2013, 10:43:16 AM »
I have one of those relatives on FB who does the must be nice routine when someone talks about a new car or vacation.  To me, that is so rude, like "how dare you have something nice and not give it to me!"  Well, dude..you and your wife decided to have 4 kids right in a row and for her to stay home with them, and they should have the best of the best of video games and toys.  He actually complained how it must be nice for people to have so much when they had to borrow money to put their child in an activity that was known to be very expensive and it's only purpose was for bragging about special child was to be in activity (think reality show activity).  I just laugh because they have posted must be nices on my statuses and I scrape and scrimp and do without the big things to be able to afford certain things for our family to do and they post about their new phones or video game systems.

I've got some new "friends" like this on FB. They actually beg for money on FB from their friends, and then get mad when people call them out on it. I will never understand this. If you can't afford rent or car payments, why do you have all the newest video game systems, new phones, all the data plans, the highest tier wireless internet, and brand new computers?

heartmug

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« Reply #896 on: May 16, 2013, 10:46:41 AM »
I have one of those relatives on FB who does the must be nice routine when someone talks about a new car or vacation.  To me, that is so rude, like "how dare you have something nice and not give it to me!"  Well, dude..you and your wife decided to have 4 kids right in a row and for her to stay home with them, and they should have the best of the best of video games and toys.  He actually complained how it must be nice for people to have so much when they had to borrow money to put their child in an activity that was known to be very expensive and it's only purpose was for bragging about special child was to be in activity (think reality show activity).  I just laugh because they have posted must be nices on my statuses and I scrape and scrimp and do without the big things to be able to afford certain things for our family to do and they post about their new phones or video game systems.

I've got some new "friends" like this on FB. They actually beg for money on FB from their friends, and then get mad when people call them out on it. I will never understand this. If you can't afford rent or car payments, why do you have all the newest video game systems, new phones, all the data plans, the highest tier wireless internet, and brand new computers?

DH called out greedy nephew on that.  A few years back we finally were able to go on our dream vacation.  For 5 years we dedicated to not giving each other any presents (anniversary, birthday, Christmas, nor Valentine's Day) and stock away that money.  We also had pay-as-you-go phones.  Nephew made a snide comment about how "lucky" we are and after pointing out about the lack of gift giving DH pulled out his phone and said "Let's compare phone costs" as nephew sat there playing with his iphone.
One option in a tug of war with someone is just to drop the rope.

Shalamar

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #897 on: May 16, 2013, 12:06:25 PM »
I once got the "gee, must be NICE" reaction when I landed my dream job as a computer programmer.  Up until that point, I was working as a secretary and getting paid peanuts, so I was very happy and excited.  One of my fellow secretaries was visibly envious and made that comment.   I was tempted to say "Four years of university to get my Bachelor of Computer Science degree, plus two years of job-hunting ... yeah, you're right, that job just fell into my lap."

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #898 on: May 16, 2013, 12:22:21 PM »
I generally use the play dumb method with "must be nice" types.

"Gee, must be NICE to be able to go on vacation!" (after we've saved forever for the trip)
Me: "Oh, thank you, it is nice, we're really looking forward to it!"

siamesecat2965

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« Reply #899 on: May 16, 2013, 01:57:32 PM »
I generally use the play dumb method with "must be nice" types.

"Gee, must be NICE to be able to go on vacation!" (after we've saved forever for the trip)
Me: "Oh, thank you, it is nice, we're really looking forward to it!"

I do too. I have a friend who does this all the time. She works, and makes ok money, but due to poor financial choices and not making any effort to change things she may not be happy with, I frequently am able to do things she would like to do, but can't. She's VERY PA too. I will just say yes, I saved up for a while, and am happy I'm able to do this.

I just bought a new car, well, new to me. Got a great deal on it, and its almost brand new. She commented how it must be nice to be able to afford SUCH a nice car. Um, its nice but not a luxery car. I bought a Camry. But hey, I saved, and did what I ahd to do. and since i bought it a bit sooner than I had anticipated, I will ahve to scale back on some other expenditures for a while