I believe I handled this moocher very well (according to e-Hell standards).
I am known in my Freecycle group as a very generous giver, mostly of books and most of those new. (I run a literary website and am also a book design judge.) Well, yesterday I decided to go through my personal library and really clean out books that I know I won't read again or probably will never read at all. I ended up with forty of them. So I posted the list on Freecycle and also added some caveats:
I have a *lot* of books to give away in this post so I am going to ask that you read this before asking for any.
First, be absolutely committed to coming when you say you will. If you miss your appointment time I will go on to the next person on the list—and mark you as unreliable—without another thought.
Second, ask for no more than two books. I plan to spread these as far and wide as I can. What is left over, if any, will then be put into a second post a few days hence.
Third, I plan to allow sufficient time for everyone to see this post so expect a bit of a wait before you hear from me.
Fourth, because I am going to take some time in responding, I encourage you to look up the book(s) online to see if the story/subject really appeals to you. This will save everyone’s time.
Fifth, I live near the ___ and ___ intersection so plan accordingly.
And now, without further ado, here we go. There is a mix of hardcover and paperback, of fiction and nonfiction, of new and used. I will try to note them in my post. The books are listed in no particular order except for six I have reserved exclusively for public school teachers at the end.
For some reason the post has not gone live yet but it has obviously gone out somehow (subscription?) because I got two emails. One of them is from a man, a retired lawyer and certainly better, far better situated financially than I am, who has gotten numerous books from me over the past several years. This time, he again jumped right on it:
Now: I am interested most in the photo books,
YUBA SEASONS: IMAGES FRO THE WILD & SCENIC SOUTH YUBA RIVER
A THE LEWIS & CLARK TRAILS (AMERICAN LANDSCAPES)
I am most interested in the Lewis and Clark, as I have always been amazed and enamored by the adventure of those people. I am reading the journals, albeit slowly and love the idea that traces of the trails still exist.
If I were to get the YUBA book I will stare at it a while and then give it to my sister-in-law who is a very talented landscape and animal photographer.
The AKULE is pretty fascinating, too. As is the FDR.
Stop me, please.
So I am reading this and feeling myself growing angrier by the word. I cannot believe how selfish he is--and it seems to be getting worse. I fumed and fretted for a few hours while I ran errands, and when I came home I read it again. It still made me angry. So I debated what to do, then decided to make myself and e-Hell proud. I sent this:
I am going to be honest with you and tell you that I feel I have already given you more than I am comfortable with. Almost every time I post things you are first to contact me. This latest email is also over the top. Plus, I never see you give anything away, though I might have missed things.
I am not well financially, and I know you are. That's fine. You undoubtedly worked hard for what you have. But I would rather not give you any more things for a long time to come.
He has not yet responded and may not. I hope not actually. But even if he does I will not reply. I am (very) relieved and happy I stood up for myself in a polite yet firm way that let him know what I thought of his continued selfishness. And I feel good about it.