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bloo

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #1200 on: June 22, 2013, 08:41:54 AM »
I hear you guys. In our free time, DH likes to build computers, and I make bean-to-bar chocolate. We don't do it because it saves any money; reality is quite the opposite! Lots of people don't understand that, and think we're turning this stuff out in mass every day, so why shouldn't we make some for them?

If only my house really was a chocolate factory...

I hear you!

DH is an avid hunter and fisherman. He catches and cleans anywhere from 125-175 lbs of filets each year (small whitefish - so it's A LOT of fish and A LOT of work) and then I finish the cleaning and packing for the freezer (no small job for me and the kids). It takes many trips out to one of three lakes he goes to, often times coming back empty-handed. He enjoys fishing, we enjoy eating the fish and hosting at least one large fishfry a year, but we do NOT save money when one factors in the cost of his motor, insurance, gas, bait, equipment and license.

You'd be surprised at the number of people that have invited us to dinner at their house with the request, "We'll make the sides, you just bring the fish." :o To one of them that had repeated that request, my husband responded with, "Okay, buy some steaks and it'll be surf-n-turf," to which the gentleman looked like :o! Then the guy said, "but you've got all that fish!" like DH just walks into a wading pool in our backyard with a net and they all magically clean themselves and jump into our freezer.

Now, mind you, we frequently show hospitality and we usually serve fish (unless we know a guest dislikes it) and we've sometimes chosen to give a couple pounds here and there as gifts but at our discretion.

One should never presume to receive a gift from someone's hobby!


KB

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #1201 on: June 22, 2013, 08:49:47 PM »
bloo, if you are invited again, I would go along and bring fish - uncleaned, ungutted, completely whole (eyes and all) fresh from the pond! After all, they never said you had to bring the fish ready to cook! Let them discover just how much work it is...

bloo

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #1202 on: June 22, 2013, 10:23:14 PM »
bloo, if you are invited again, I would go along and bring fish - uncleaned, ungutted, completely whole (eyes and all) fresh from the pond! After all, they never said you had to bring the fish ready to cook! Let them discover just how much work it is...

 ;D


Just one more time and I think I will....

LadyClaire

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #1203 on: June 23, 2013, 03:09:42 PM »
I've had a lot of "will you make me.." or "will you teach me to..." requests from people. Oh, and the people who want me to fix their broken jewelry but don't want to pay me for the repair.

I've only had three people offer me money to repair their broken jewelry. That's out of the dozens of requests I've had over the years.

The "will you teach me how.." people also irritate the snot out of me. I finally relented and offered to teach a co-worker how to crochet and loaned her a crochet hook and a ball of yarn until she got her own. It's been over a year and I never got the hook back. I reminded her about it and she said "Oh. Yeah. I think I lost it. I'll buy you a new one" and never did.

Then there are the people who want to learn how to make soldered jewelry, using my supplies, and don't offer any money. Sure, I'll just give you a sheet of sterling silver that's worth $50 for you to "practice" with, and you can use my tools and my solder and my torch fuel..no problem. I've told a lot of people I don't teach metalsmithing. Which I don't. I don't have the patience to teach other people how to do it, and I don't feel like taking on the liability of handing someone a torch and telling them to have at it. A lot of people think you use a soldering iron to solder jewelry..you don't. It's a full-blown open flamed torch. The one I have can get a big nasty flame if you're not careful.


CrazyDaffodilLady

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #1204 on: June 23, 2013, 08:47:11 PM »
My crochet teacher occasionally offers a free beginnerís class that holds 10 people.  One time she got a call from a very pushy mother who wanted to enroll herself, her friend, and their three daughters (taking half the available spots).  Teacher said the classes were for adults, but that she would consider offering a childrenís class.  Pushy Mom hounded the teacher until she gave in: the girls were dying to learn to crochet, it would be such a wonderful mommy/daughter bonding experience, etc.

First class, it was obvious the girls didnít want to be there.  They were obnoxious and disruptive and walked out of the class half way through.  Neither moms nor daughters showed up for the second class.   
It takes two people to play tug of war. If you don't want to play, don't pick up the rope.

Isilleke

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #1205 on: June 24, 2013, 02:02:04 PM »
I always seem to attract the cigarette moochers. At least, that's what I suspect they are when I tell them I don't smoke and they get really upset and start berating me.

I get that I smell of smoke (in a household of 3, I'm the only who doesn't smoke and they smoke everywhere - even in the bathroom - ) but still, getting mad because I don't have a cigarette for you?

Or the ones who demand you drive everywhere with them but are offended when you ask them for gasmoney.

cwm

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« Reply #1206 on: June 24, 2013, 02:09:47 PM »
Strangers ask me for cigarettes. I don't smoke. I don't live in a house where people smoke. Even if I did, they're random strange people on the street who aren't close enough to smell me. They just assume that everyone has a smoke for them.

One of my sister's exes told me the best way to deal with them, though. Don't tell them you don't smoke. Don't tell them no. Just say you're out right now. And keep walking. People trying to bum cigarettes on the street are more persistent than panhandlers, IMO.

nutraxfornerves

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #1207 on: June 24, 2013, 05:05:04 PM »
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French authorities bidding to crack down on school test cheats obviously didnít count on a 52-year-old woman "in elaborate make up" turning up to take an important high school English exam in Paris this week in place of her 19-year-old daughter

Original story in French

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ladyknight1

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #1208 on: June 24, 2013, 05:16:51 PM »
Wow. Terrible, but kind of clever.
ďAll that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."
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RegionMom

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #1209 on: June 24, 2013, 10:07:02 PM »
Would like to see the photos on that one!!
Fear is temporary...Regret is forever.

heartmug

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« Reply #1210 on: June 25, 2013, 11:00:51 AM »
Whoa!  And how well was her dd going to do at university if she couldn't pass the exam to get in?
One option in a tug of war with someone is just to drop the rope.

PastryGoddess

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« Reply #1211 on: June 25, 2013, 11:39:53 AM »
Whoa!  And how well was her dd going to do at university if she couldn't pass the exam to get in?

That question requires the use of logic, reasoning and a semi-functioning brain

heartmug

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« Reply #1212 on: June 26, 2013, 11:05:14 AM »
Whoa!  And how well was her dd going to do at university if she couldn't pass the exam to get in?

That question requires the use of logic, reasoning and a semi-functioning brain

But of course.
One option in a tug of war with someone is just to drop the rope.

Redwing

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« Reply #1213 on: June 26, 2013, 11:13:44 AM »
I got a spam today with this in the subject line:

I love your eyes and the way it looks at me makes me go so craze at you. The silent language spoken by your eyes makes my life more romantic. I want to get myself lost in your smiling eyes.

The body of the email is a link, which, of course, I will not follow.

staceym

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« Reply #1214 on: June 26, 2013, 01:45:45 PM »
I got a spam today with this in the subject line:

I love your eyes and the way it looks at me makes me go so craze at you. The silent language spoken by your eyes makes my life more romantic. I want to get myself lost in your smiling eyes.

The body of the email is a link, which, of course, I will not follow.

 :D

I got one last week that said they saw my profile pic on FB and thought I was cute and wanted to get to know me better (or some such wording)....

I really laughed out loud because my FB profile pic is one of me and my sister and brothers when we were younger, I was about 5.  I wonder how "he" knew which one I was  :P