After I went away to university, my mother was introduced by a friend to a woman with a genuine sob story. Her husband threw her out and wouldn't let her see their teenage daughter. From what I have heard, she lost custody of her daughter to her husband and lost her nursing job. I want to preface this by saying that I really do feel bad for her and the situation is awful. However, the woman is extremely manipulative. My mother is too nice and so when this women would come by saying her daughter needed to use a printer for a school project or didn't have money for an art project, my mom would give it to her, because apparently the father was neglectful. It wasn't an exhorbitant amount of money, but it was enough to help. Meanwhile, the lady was sleeping at a shelter and trying to find work. Eventually, the requests grew in number to things such as more money or staying at our house despite my mother having health problems. She grew increasingly surly and rude when refused. Again, I understand that she was going through a lot, but still inappropriate. My dad put his foot down to her ever staying over or to more handouts, and eventually the woman moved across the country to live with her father.
This woman, who I'll call ''A,'' completely fell from my good graces after she called my mother (who has been recently hospitalized for a month's time) and asked that she use her daughter and her daughter's friend as nurses (when they were not qualified and were not even in nursing school) while she recovered from surgery. To top it all off, she demanded that they be allowed to live in my parents' home! My father and mother refused and this woman behaved very curtly toward my mother on the phone, which in turn caused some serious stress in a time that was supposed to be for recuperation. I believe she ended up calling a few times, crying or being rude and stressing my poor mother out because she wasn't getting her way.
I was home from univeristy at the time and though I hate confrontation, I swore that if she called back when I was home I would say some very non-E-hell approved things. Who behaves that way toward an ill person?
Thankfully, things tapered off. The only reminder of the woman was that A's suitcase was allowed to sit in our home because she had no place to store these belongings at the time. According to her, she was assisting her father and working as a nurse again and my mother would hear from her by phone every so often.
I left the country for a job over a year ago and returned for Christmas to find that the woman was also in town. She put a photograph of her own daughter next to one of me on the family mantle. I pointed it out to my mother later, who moved it, not having seen her do it. When I was out, this woman returned and put the photo back AGAIN. My mother moved it and politely explained that the mantle was for family members only. When my mother left the room, the woman put it back again. I nearly hit the roof. My mother was storing some of this lady's belongings, had assisted her and her daughter, and here she was, not even listening to the most basic of requests. She was also back to asking for more money with the claim that her nursing job ''went away,'' but she didn't want to live with her father (for pride reasons) so she was back asking for more help. I never ended up running into her during the vacation, but I was very happy to hear that a few months later, when the woman moved back into town, my father showed her the door after she repeatedly made requests to sleep over despite being told that it would not be possible. From what I heard, every ''no'' was met with ''it would only be for a few days'' or ''I'm really quiet and would help out.'' Same goes with requests for more cash. ''I just need twenty dollars...''
Her daughter is probably around 20 now and living with a friend the last I heard, so I'm happy to hear she's not living with that father anymore.