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Lynn2000

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2625 on: May 16, 2014, 04:32:20 PM »
I once THOUGHT I was being called by a scammer, but I wasn't.  This was the conversation (background:  my then-boyfriend, now-husband had only been dating for a short time at that point, and I didn't know all of his friends' voices):

*phone rings*
Woman's Voice:  Hello, is (Boyfriend's name) there?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Is he there or not?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Look, would you please put (Boyfriend's name) on the phone?
Me:  Not until I know who's calling!
Woman:  It's SUSAN!  His friend from SCHOOL!  Can I talk to him or not?
Me:  ... okay.  Here he is.

I bet she thought I was a jealous b-word, but honestly - why wouldn't she identify herself right from the get-go?

I don't blame you, if she was calling your house where your boyfriend doesn't live, that's a really weird way to act! Honestly I probably would've assumed it was a scam and hung up on her before she had a chance to explain--it sounds a little bit like one of those bill collector-types.
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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2626 on: May 16, 2014, 06:02:34 PM »
I once THOUGHT I was being called by a scammer, but I wasn't.  This was the conversation (background:  my then-boyfriend, now-husband had only been dating for a short time at that point, and I didn't know all of his friends' voices):

*phone rings*
Woman's Voice:  Hello, is (Boyfriend's name) there?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Is he there or not?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Look, would you please put (Boyfriend's name) on the phone?
Me:  Not until I know who's calling!
Woman:  It's SUSAN!  His friend from SCHOOL!  Can I talk to him or not?
Me:  ... okay.  Here he is.

I bet she thought I was a jealous b-word, but honestly - why wouldn't she identify herself right from the get-go?

If someone called my house and demanded to speak to my guest without first identifying herself, I can assure you my first concern would NOT be what she thought I was.  It would be what I thought she was.

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2627 on: May 16, 2014, 07:34:07 PM »
I once THOUGHT I was being called by a scammer, but I wasn't.  This was the conversation (background:  my then-boyfriend, now-husband had only been dating for a short time at that point, and I didn't know all of his friends' voices):

*phone rings*
Woman's Voice:  Hello, is (Boyfriend's name) there?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Is he there or not?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Look, would you please put (Boyfriend's name) on the phone?
Me:  Not until I know who's calling!
Woman:  It's SUSAN!  His friend from SCHOOL!  Can I talk to him or not?
Me:  ... okay.  Here he is.

I bet she thought I was a jealous b-word, but honestly - why wouldn't she identify herself right from the get-go?

If someone called my house and demanded to speak to my guest without first identifying herself, I can assure you my first concern would NOT be what she thought I was.  It would be what I thought she was.

+1 !!!

Otterpop

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2628 on: May 17, 2014, 06:47:07 AM »
I once THOUGHT I was being called by a scammer, but I wasn't.  This was the conversation (background:  my then-boyfriend, now-husband had only been dating for a short time at that point, and I didn't know all of his friends' voices):

*phone rings*
Woman's Voice:  Hello, is (Boyfriend's name) there?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Is he there or not?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Look, would you please put (Boyfriend's name) on the phone?
Me:  Not until I know who's calling!
Woman:  It's SUSAN!  His friend from SCHOOL!  Can I talk to him or not?
Me:  ... okay.  Here he is.

I bet she thought I was a jealous b-word, but honestly - why wouldn't she identify herself right from the get-go?

If someone called my house and demanded to speak to my guest without first identifying herself, I can assure you my first concern would NOT be what she thought I was.  It would be what I thought she was.

+1 !!!

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Deetee

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2629 on: May 17, 2014, 04:25:28 PM »
I once THOUGHT I was being called by a scammer, but I wasn't.  This was the conversation (background:  my then-boyfriend, now-husband had only been dating for a short time at that point, and I didn't know all of his friends' voices):

*phone rings*
Woman's Voice:  Hello, is (Boyfriend's name) there?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Is he there or not?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Look, would you please put (Boyfriend's name) on the phone?
Me:  Not until I know who's calling!
Woman:  It's SUSAN!  His friend from SCHOOL!  Can I talk to him or not?
Me:  ... okay.  Here he is.

I bet she thought I was a jealous b-word, but honestly - why wouldn't she identify herself right from the get-go?

If someone called my house and demanded to speak to my guest without first identifying herself, I can assure you my first concern would NOT be what she thought I was.  It would be what I thought she was.

+1 !!!

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It isn't clear to me where she was calling to. It's still abrupt, but not as rude if she was calling the boyfriends house.

esteban

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2630 on: May 17, 2014, 06:43:41 PM »
I once THOUGHT I was being called by a scammer, but I wasn't.  This was the conversation (background:  my then-boyfriend, now-husband had only been dating for a short time at that point, and I didn't know all of his friends' voices):

*phone rings*
Woman's Voice:  Hello, is (Boyfriend's name) there?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Is he there or not?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Look, would you please put (Boyfriend's name) on the phone?
Me:  Not until I know who's calling!
Woman:  It's SUSAN!  His friend from SCHOOL!  Can I talk to him or not?
Me:  ... okay.  Here he is.

I bet she thought I was a jealous b-word, but honestly - why wouldn't she identify herself right from the get-go?

If someone called my house and demanded to speak to my guest without first identifying herself, I can assure you my first concern would NOT be what she thought I was.  It would be what I thought she was.

+1 !!!

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It isn't clear to me where she was calling to. It's still abrupt, but not as rude if she was calling the boyfriends house.

If she was at the boyfriends house I would actually say op is bordering on rude. It is not her business who is calling to talk to bf.
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gramma dishes

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2631 on: May 17, 2014, 06:59:18 PM »
It never occurred to me that that conversation might have taken place at the boyfriend's house.  She said in her opening sentence "I once thought I was being called by a scammer" leading me to believe the call came in to her house or at least her phone.

If it happened at the boyfriend's house and phone, that would be entirely different.

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2632 on: May 17, 2014, 08:56:33 PM »
I once THOUGHT I was being called by a scammer, but I wasn't.  This was the conversation (background:  my then-boyfriend, now-husband had only been dating for a short time at that point, and I didn't know all of his friends' voices):

*phone rings*
Woman's Voice:  Hello, is (Boyfriend's name) there?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Is he there or not?
Me:  Who's calling, please?
Woman:  Look, would you please put (Boyfriend's name) on the phone?
Me:  Not until I know who's calling!
Woman:  It's SUSAN!  His friend from SCHOOL!  Can I talk to him or not?
Me:  ... okay.  Here he is.

I bet she thought I was a jealous b-word, but honestly - why wouldn't she identify herself right from the get-go?
I fielded a similar call when the woman caller wanted to speak to my husband (who was at work at the time.)  She finally said in a very snippy tone "It's about one of his private charities.  Now put him on the phone."

I'm afraid that EvilMama broke out of her cage at that point.

EM: Guess again, chickie-baby.  *I* write all the checks and monitor the budget down to the penny.  If he's donating to a charity, it's out of his $10 a week snack money.  If you want a donation, you talk to ME. 

She hung up on me. 
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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2633 on: May 17, 2014, 09:30:14 PM »
Just as, in parliamentary procedure, a motion to adjourn is always in order ... a request for "may I tell him who is calling, please?" is always in order. Regardless of whose phone or residence it is.
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esteban

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« Reply #2634 on: May 18, 2014, 08:39:36 AM »
Just as, in parliamentary procedure, a motion to adjourn is always in order ... a request for "may I tell him who is calling, please?" is always in order. Regardless of whose phone or residence it is.

I disagree strongly.  If it is not your house, you have no standing to ask who is calling, it is up to the resident to decide if they want to tell you I think.

"May I tell him who is calling, please" implies that you have standing to ask that question, and have gotten a request from the resident to screen their calls, if that is not the case, then it just seems like you are being nosy to ask.  If someone answered the phone at my house, even if I asked them to grab it cause I wasn't near it or something, I would be very peeved if they decided to ask who was calling for me.  It isn't their business.
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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2635 on: May 18, 2014, 09:21:04 AM »
I disagree.

  Perhaps it's a hangover from my working days when it was library policy to identify myself when I made a call.  It was also policy to ask who was calling if the caller didn't identify himself.

I would never think the question odd.   

esteban

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« Reply #2636 on: May 18, 2014, 10:41:15 AM »
I disagree.

  Perhaps it's a hangover from my working days when it was library policy to identify myself when I made a call.  It was also policy to ask who was calling if the caller didn't identify himself.

I would never think the question odd.   

See if the caller identifies themselves by choice I don't care.  And you were asking who was calling the library as a matter of doing business, and making sure the caller got to the right person.  Those are valid reasons to ask.  I think someone just answering the phone at a friends house.

Might just be a different strokes for different folks thing.  I can see times where it isn't out of line (like in business) but in a private residence you aren't the resident of? I think it is out of line (assuming the resident didn't ask you to do it to screen calls etc)
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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2637 on: May 18, 2014, 10:43:51 AM »
I disagree.

  Perhaps it's a hangover from my working days when it was library policy to identify myself when I made a call.  It was also policy to ask who was calling if the caller didn't identify himself.

I would never think the question odd.   

See if the caller identifies themselves by choice I don't care.  And you were asking who was calling the library as a matter of doing business, and making sure the caller got to the right person.  Those are valid reasons to ask.  I think someone just answering the phone at a friends house.

Might just be a different strokes for different folks thing.  I can see times where it isn't out of line (like in business) but in a private residence you aren't the resident of? I think it is out of line (assuming the resident didn't ask you to do it to screen calls etc)

If you are comfortable enough as a visitor to answer the house phone, I would think you would have the authority to ask "who may I say is calling, please."
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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #2638 on: May 18, 2014, 11:41:52 AM »
I disagree.

  Perhaps it's a hangover from my working days when it was library policy to identify myself when I made a call.  It was also policy to ask who was calling if the caller didn't identify himself.

I would never think the question odd.   

See if the caller identifies themselves by choice I don't care.  And you were asking who was calling the library as a matter of doing business, and making sure the caller got to the right person.  Those are valid reasons to ask.  I think someone just answering the phone at a friends house.

Might just be a different strokes for different folks thing.  I can see times where it isn't out of line (like in business) but in a private residence you aren't the resident of? I think it is out of line (assuming the resident didn't ask you to do it to screen calls etc)

For me it is a courtesy thing. SO when I hand over the phone I can say "it's Pete from the drive through" so you know how is calling.

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« Reply #2639 on: May 18, 2014, 06:30:33 PM »
Whoops, yes, I wasn't clear - the call from Susan was made to the house Boyfriend and I co-owned.

Ah if you are a resident of the house then she was for sure rude.
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