I have a question. I will preface to say that I am the type of person who needs alone time, so I am not sure if my feelings are unreasonable on this matter.
My daughter's best friend is at my house each day of each weekend. It is very rare for them to play at her friend's home. When at my home, I am expected to provide all snacks and meals. Friend's parents never call her home for supper/lunch. Another neighbour mom has approached me because she knows kid is at my house alot and commented that she has fed this kid each day of some weeks.
My DH and I differ because he likes that my daughter has friends and, well, he isn't around much to be dealing with the extra kid in the house. I think it can be a hindrance, one reason being that my daughter ends up being monopolised by one kid.
I am beginning to feel resentful because I always have an extra kid to take care of and it feels very unfair that the relationship isn't 2-way. I have spoken with the girl's mother and she says that it's because her daughter prefers to play at other friends' homes. The Mom runs a dayhome and I think just wants a break from kids herself and sends her daughter off to wherever. The only time I haven't had her kid all weekend was when we were away on holidays!
My daughter goes to her dad to ask if friend can come over cause he's "yes man" ! This past weekend, I had spoken to my hubby because we were having family over for dinner and I was adamant that she not be here for the meal. Dinner time and he was really wanting to invite her for dinner but I said No. (My SIL, who doesn't hold her tongue very well, at one point during the weekend asked this kid if she had a home cause "it must be nice not to have to care for your own kid." SIL even told my hubby he needs to set boundaries with this kid.) Another time, the kids come into our home because my daughter "is not allowed to use the bathroom there." Seriously!?!
I know I am entitled to my feelings but am I being unreasonable? Would you feel take advantage of or tired of hosting this kid? How the heck do I get hubby on board?