I have a Tumblr account and I post regularly about all sorts of things, some of them being fitness, weight loss, and martial arts. I have several followers and lately I have been flooded with these two types of private messages:
1. One-word messages. "Hi." or "Whassup." Part of me thinks that if you want to speak to someone, you wouldn't just walk up to them and say "Hi," you'd get the ball rolling yourself. So far I've decided not to answer one-word messages that want me to do all the communication work-these are always from people I've never spoken to. Is it rude to just flat-out not answer?
2. Along the same vein, I recently made a post saying that I wanted to talk with someone around my stats (age/height/weight-wise) about healthy eating and recipes and such. In my post I made it very clear that I only wanted to stay in contact with people who fit into x, y, and z categories. This is for a variety of reasons, most of them being ability to relate/talk strategy about shared characteristics. I have been getting a whole lot of messages from people saying "Hey, I know I don't fit what you're looking for, but..." or "Hey, I'm not doing any of the stuff you're doing, but...." who want to keep in contact with me. Either that, or they act like they never saw anything but the title of the post and launch into how they're a, b, and c (where I'm x, y, and z) and they would totally love to talk to me. My rationale has always been that I can talk to anyone on my blog (through reblogging posts/asking and answering questions) but I like to message people who are going through/went through the same things as I am. Is it rude to ignore these types of messages? Is there a polite way to reply that still lets them know that they're ignoring what I asked for? This is kind of like MariaE's post about adding friends-but in my case, the person didn't just hit a "friend" button, they wrote a message to me specifically.