I'm in the beginning stages of planning my wedding with my DF. We have booked a venue, paid the first installment, ordered my gown, chosen a bridal party and come November will begin the process of handling the rest of it. We're hosting a large event the weekend of Halloween, so our minds are a bit preoccupied at the moment.
Last night I went to a dance rehearsal with a friend and the Best Woman, my DF's close friend of more than 10 years. I knew getting into my rel@tionship with DF that he and Best Woman had dated more than a decade ago, but that it never left the awkward stage when they decided it was going nowhere. I've since become good friends with Best Woman.
After the rehearsal, the fee of us girls relaxed a bit with a glass of wine and some chatter. In the course of the night Best Woman asked me if DF still made large decisions without consulting anyone. She went on to say that when they were together he traded in his Land Rover and Lotus for a "big redneck truck" and bought a huge piece of land on the opposite side of town from the airport and all the lakes thus cramping her preferred lifestyle, which was a deal breaker for her. She went on to say that she knew what DF was making back then, so while the money wasn't a concern, she just didn't want to cramp her lifestyle.
Stupidly I asked her what he was making back then even thought I knew what his salary is today. She grinned a said that DF would never want her to tell something like that. At the time I just shrugged and made a noncommittal response and sipped my wine.
Wrap all of that up with the nice bow of my nightmare last night (I woke up in a cold sweat and panic thought it had little to do with her I think), I've spent a good portion of my afternoon thinking on what Best Woman said. I suspect their rel@tionship was more serious than they both have told me, and while I know there is nothing going on between them now and I also believe that a person's past is just the road that led the to who they are today, this woman is a part of our lives now and is a planned member of our wedding.
So please, EHellions, give me some advice on how to handle this from here?