I'm a lurker who recently joined, so if this is in the wrong place, please forgive me - I'm still learning. Thanks in advance for any words of wisdom!
It's been a long week and I've been counting down to a sporting event I'm going to tonight with my boyfriend. He texted me a bit ago to say "hey, [Annoying Friend, we'll call him A] might be joining us tonight." My response was, "oh? did he invite himself?" (Note, this isn't something I'd normally say, but this friend invites himself to a lot of things.) Boyfriend confirms that yes, A did invite himself, and then relays their conversation.
Boyfriend and A were talking about sports, and BF mentioned that we were going to the game tonight (mistake - as BF knows, A considers any mention of an event to be akin to an invitation). A responds, "really? I might come up for that. I miss [sport]." BF then digs (in my mind) deeper and happily tells A about the 10-game pack of tickets that we'd gotten and what a great deal it was and goes in detail about the great benefit of the 10-game pack. A says, "wow, that is a fantastic deal, I might get one of those myself."
So, I've now gone from looking forward to my partial-season of sports games with my BF to imagining spending many evenings making small-talk with A - who isn't a bad guy, but I don't want to spend this much of my free time and entertainment budget hanging with him.
I let BF know that I wasn't happy with this turn of events, and reminded him that he needs to be careful when mentioning things to A due to the presumed-invitation phenomenon. He offered to disinvite him from tonight, which of course I said would be rude and he should not do that.
Hope that is not too much detail. My questions are:
1. Is there any way to fix things re A buying the 10 games' worth of tickets? I think not, but in case I'm just lacking imagination, I will throw the question out there.
2. What would be the best way for me to forestall this kind of thing happening in the future? I asked BF why he mentioned the game to A without asking me first - he said that he assumed, at this late hour, A already had Friday plans so it was safe. But in general, I wouldn't invite (and he would never explicitly invite) a third party on what was going to be a night for the two of us without asking first. I'm happy to have friends come to sporting events with us - it happens often - but this just seems over the top.