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gen xer:
  These are more like pet peeves regarding making conversation....but i'll bet a lot of peole feel the same way!!  Please add on some more.

1.  Captain Obvious here....but don't monopolize the conversation.  In fact it is not a conversation it is someone holding court to an audience that frankly is probably just enduring it to be polite.

2.  Don't talk about people others don't know.  It is one thing if it is a brief incidental to a topic but why people think others are interested in knowing the details of your best friend's great aunt's 85th birthday party is beyond me.  Another endurance test.

3.  Make an effort to include everyone.  Nobody wants to be that person on the fringes when everyone else is part of a clique.  Bring people into it.

4.  On another note....don't interrupt....either by cutting people off, talking over them or barging into a private conversation and hijacking it.

5.  Lots ofpeople would say avoid controversy at all costs but while maybe bringing up abortion or the death penalty is a bad idea...learn how to make conversation politely and respectfully on all sorts of topics - even controversila ones.   Staying completely safe and talking about weather and gardening is boooooorrrrriiiinnng....don't be that stick in the mud who everyone is afraid of saying the wrong thing around.

snowdragon:
6) you're opinion is your opinion - not fact, not the one and only way of doing things. You want people to respect your way of doing things, then you need to respect theirs.

7) If you have deeply help beliefs in one direction, recognize that others may have equally deeply held beliefs in the other direction, if you can't acknowledge/respect other's opinions on that topic- only talk about it to like minded folks.

8) Even if the person disagrees with you, you don't have the right to say "do it this way or go hell" unless you are either God, the person's spiritual adviser, or the parent talking to your minor child. 

9) saying that you don't care about someone the speaker loves is rude, no matter if the loved one is a child, adult or pet.

10) Conversation is give and take not one way. Take a break once in awhile.

11) if someone walks up and tries to join your group, not at least acknowledging them is rude.

25wishes:
all very good points. I am amazed at the "professional" people on TV who interrupt guests that they are interviewing. I want to rap them on the knuckles. >:D

Hawkwatcher:

--- Quote from: snowdragon on October 14, 2012, 01:11:59 PM ---6) you're opinion is your opinion - not fact, not the one and only way of doing things. You want people to respect your way of doing things, then you need to respect theirs.

7) If you have deeply help beliefs in one direction, recognize that others may have equally deeply held beliefs in the other direction, if you can't acknowledge/respect other's opinions on that topic- only talk about it to like minded folks.

8) Even if the person disagrees with you, you don't have the right to say "do it this way or go hell" unless you are either God, the person's spiritual adviser, or the parent talking to your minor child. 

9) saying that you don't care about someone the speaker loves is rude, no matter if the loved one is a child, adult or pet.

10) Conversation is give and take not one way. Take a break once in awhile.

11) if someone walks up and tries to join your group, not at least acknowledging them is rude.

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12) Consider your audience and setting.  A topic that might be appropriate and interesting to one group may not be appropriate to others.  One example is telling a joke.  A joke that is funny to one group of people may not be funny to another group.

13) Try to be as positive as possible in a social situation.  While no person expects you to be sunshine and light all the time, being around Mr. or Ms. Doom and Gloom all the time is no fun. 

14) Be careful about sharing and spreading gossip, especially if you are not do not know everyone at the gathering.   You do not want to gossip about your neighbor and find out that the new person is your neighbor's friend.

Onyx_TKD:

--- Quote from: gen xer on October 14, 2012, 12:44:35 PM ---5.  Lots ofpeople would say avoid controversy at all costs but while maybe bringing up abortion or the death penalty is a bad idea...learn how to make conversation politely and respectfully on all sorts of topics - even controversila ones.   Staying completely safe and talking about weather and gardening is boooooorrrrriiiinnng....don't be that stick in the mud who everyone is afraid of saying the wrong thing around.

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--- Quote from: snowdragon on October 14, 2012, 01:11:59 PM ---7) If you have deeply help beliefs in one direction, recognize that others may have equally deeply held beliefs in the other direction, if you can't acknowledge/respect other's opinions on that topic- only talk about it to like minded folks.

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To expand on these, don't assume that polite silence on a topic indicates agreement. If you start in on a topic known to be controversial and realize that one or more people aren't saying a word either way, you may need to reconsider whether the topic in general and the way you're expressing your point is appropriate for the current group or venue.

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