BG: I am the official keeper of The Wedding Hanky in our family. Almost every bride in our family has carried the hanky at her wedding for generations now. Aunt was the keeper, but as she is getting up in age decided to pass the responsibility to me several years ago. Since I am the keeper, I have the occasion to be contacted by distant family that I don't know to ask for the hanky to be sent for a wedding, etc, etc.
I am getting ready to send The Hanky to a bride for her wedding next month. This is a very distant cousin that I do not know, have not met, etc. Her father and I are about the same age and WE are distant cousins - we think we maybe met once when we were children at a family reunion. As I was getting things together this morning and preparing to send her an e-mail to verify the address that I am sending it to, I got an e-mail from Aunt. Aunt let me know that Bride's brother passed away suddenly in August, out of the country, with no known cause. (He was 30)
I don't know how to segue between, "My deepest sympathies on the sudden passing of your brother." and, "I hope the wedding plans are going well! Where exactly would you like me to send the hanky?". I feel I would be remiss not to acknowledge her brother's passing. She is not someone I would normally send a sympathy card to or anything - I don't even know her - so I don't feel like I can ignore it in the e-mail but send a card. I don't want to talk about the wedding first and end with the sympathies because then it feels like, "btw - sorry about your brother" - like it's an afterthought - and I don't want that either.
Suggestions on wording this e-mail please??