I really would like your opinion on this, whether I overreacted and if so, how I could have done things differently (although I hope this situation never ever arises again).
Wednesday morning was a very tough day for me and my mum, as it was the day to have the remains of very dear family members moved from Cemetery A to Cemetery B, to join other very dear family members (to a joint family niche tomb). In addition, we were also interring the cremains of my dear father, who passed away in 2011 -my mum had been keeping the urn at her home but we decided to place him where we will be when the time comes. You can imagine it was a very emotional time.
We were waiting at Cemetery B -we had arrived a bit earlier so as to have time to prepare and grieve- and we were carrying the urn with the cremains of my dear father in the standard bag (recognisable by anyone in the field) which was inside a paper bag with handles, but visible. The cemetery was empty except for two ladies who, we surmised, were looking into purchasing one of the available empty niche tombs. My mother and I exchanged good mornings with the ladies. At some point, we saw at a distance a guard/assistant of Cemetery B who came to show them around. The ladies had seen us place the bag in front of our niche (it was quite heavy).
We strolled a bit to visit a relative nearby, in a row of niches which was partly hidden from view by a partition wall, but only about 20 metres from our niche. Next thing we know, there were the two ladies and the ward *carrying the bag with my father's urn*, about 10 metres from us, and she (the guard) asked us (a bit loudly if I may say) whether "this was ours". Please note again that it was clear there was an urn inside. I immediately said, in a firm voice, "Excuse me! Please leave this were it was. How *dare* you take this bag?". She didn't move and just stood there. I walked towards her (crying) and took the bag from her and left it again in its place. The guard apologised to my mum and she and the ladies went their way.
Since it was a very emotional situation, maybe my mum and I took it too much to heart (that's why I'm running it past you), but we would never *dream* of touching anything beside a niche tomb, and we both felt that the guard went above and beyond by actually picking up the bag containing the urn, especially as it took her all of 15 seconds between grabbing the bag and seeing us. We also felt that, had we been one of the ladies, we would have told the guard that there were two ladies with the bag and would have tried to prevent the guard from taking *anything* before making sure the owners had left.
On a more positive note, when a bit later the men in charge of placing the remains came, they were extremely kind and sensitive to our distress (not caused because of this incident) and everything went very well. Then my mum and I treated ourselves to a nice lunch, loads of chatting and reminiscing and a small shopping trip.
And so my questions are: did I behave well? Do you think the guard was right in being so quick to grab the bag with my father's urn? If you had been one of the ladies, would you have said anything to prevent her? Or am I being too sensitive? (as it may very well be). Thank you very much for your opinions, and feel free to ask for clarification as I am not in one of my most lucid moments.