I realize that I am late in asking this question (since it happens in 2 days) and there is honestly nothing I can do at this point (short of a "miracle friend" stepping up to watch my daughter)
my good friends' daughter is making her Bat Mitzvah on Saturday. hubs has to work on Saturday and will not be able to be there. All of my local "support" for the rare times when I need someone to watch my kids for a few hours will be away. My regular babysitter is not an option, because it is HER sister making the Bat Mitzvah.
I have no problem leaving my boys alone for about 2-3 hours (they are 9 and 11) while I go grocery shopping, etc and they have my cell phone # and are WAY too liberal in using it (MOOOM! Thomas called me a butthead!). I went to the Bat Mitzvah for her older sister and it was a 3 hour service (they are Conservative, so not only was it a 3-hour service, but it was a 3-hour service in a foreign language to me), followed by a 4-hour reception. I just can't leave my kids home alone that long!
And so, when I RSVP'd to the mom, I told her in person (she is a very good friend of mine who lives 3 houses from me), that I would only be able to come to the luncheon because of DH's schedule and child-care issues and she seemed completely fine with that.
The way that I was looking at it....I have about a 2-3 hour window to participate in the celebration of her Bat Mitzvah. I could go to the service where I understand NOTHING, or go to the luncheon where I could socialize with the family and express how proud I was of her (I have been friends with her family since before she was born). I really don't give a rats retina about the free lunch and I don't drink booze at that time of the say anyway...so it's not that!
Talking to my mom tonight, she told me that I had no business going for the "free lunch" when I wasn't going to the service. This COMPLETELY threw me because my mom is usually very understanding of my child-care issues. If it matters, I would have given the Bat Mitzvah girl a gift, whether I could have made it to either the service, the luncheon, or neither.
So what say you? Is it rude of me to designate those 2-3 hours that I have to attend this event to the hours where I can understand what is going on? It is obviously too late for me to change my RSVP to "not attending", as my friend already had to put in a catering head-count. But am I wrong?