Hoping that this post will not cause offence -- not intended to, or to grind any particular axe -- just wishing to express "a thought that occurred". If post transgresses, no doubt suitable measures will be taken.
I wonder occasionally, whether the Jehovah's Witnesses are perhaps "onto something", in their belief that birthdays and their commemoration are a bad thing, with a strong tendency to stimulate the evil / selfish / malicious side of human nature, with according unhappy consequences. If I'm right -- JWs, in consequence, totally eschew birthdays and anything pertaining to same.
Likely, that is overreaction -- the birthday scene, when things go well, can be very positive and pleasant "if that's one's thing"; however, one does rather often observe birthday-related matters going wrong, and causing strife and misery rather than good fellowship and mutual affection.