I wanted to get some opinions as this scenario is one that still happens sometimes. When I was a bridesmaid, one weekend I was supposed to carpool with a bride and the rest of her entourage to get dresses in a different city. We were all meeting at 8 a.m. in a parking lot that was a good walk from my dorm. I got a phone call at 7:45 from the bride, who asked where I was. I said I was still walking but should be there soon, and the bride replied that everyone else was already there. I quickened my pace. When I arrived someone jokingly said "Nice of you to finally join us"-it turns out half of them had driven up from my hometown together, and the other half had driven from within the city, so they got there early and were all standing around. As the only "walker" I got there around 7:50.
I said something like "Oh, I'm sorry, I thought I was supposed to be here at 8 but I guess I'm slow..." and held up my iPhone so that they could plainly see that it wasn't 8 a.m. yet. They all have iPhones too, so we were running off of the same time. The MOB and Aunt of the Bride (AOB?) grumped a bit and made a show of piling everyone into the car "now that we're all finally
here" and we were on the interstate before 8 a.m.
Like I said, this has happened to me before. If everyone else gets there early, it seems like the last person to arrive, even if they arrive before
the designated meeting time, is made a scapegoat. Once when I was visiting a married couple who were moving into their first apartment, I pulled into the road of an apartment complex only to pass the people I was supposed to be meeting-they were heading out for pizza (about ten minutes before I said I would arrive) and expected me to follow them in my car. (Our other friends were loaded into their minivan but even with them, there would have been plenty of room for me.)
Does this happen to anyone else? I feel like I'm a prompt person but if everyone else has already arrived and is waiting, I'm singled out as being "late". Of course, this doesn't only happen to me-people get fidgety and start saying "Well, where is he/she?" and text the "latecomer" if he or she isn't there when everyone else is, even if they're actually 10-15 minutes early. Like I said, this wouldn't be a big deal if the last person to arrive didn't always seem like a scapegoat. During my wedding party example everyone seemed rather displeased with me, even though I was actually about ten minutes early.