Last year I told the story of my roommates, John and Jane, getting married and how my being left out of pretty much everything killed my friendship with my best friend of ten years. You can find it here - http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=105669.0
Well, it's a year later and our friendship never recovered, although we kept civil. No grudges held... I just accepted it and moved on. But now I've decided to sell my house to my brother, who is having his second child and whose current lease is ending. That means that the roommies will have to be moving out, of course. The deadline is the middle of December, so I gave them notice back in mid September. So, three months notice. I figured that was reasonable.
Today I got the firm deadline of Dec 12, and let John know. His response was "Well, we don't know if we'll be able to get an apartment by then, so that's probably not happening."
Remembering my Ehell lessons, I stayed firm and said "No, that's the deadline. My brother's lease will be up then, he needs to move in."
John got angry and said that my family could "suck it", among other things. But I stayed firm and told him no, this is what is happening. He got furious. He yelled and cussed in my face, insulted my family and me, claimed two months was not fair notice (he's counting it from now since now is when I have a definite date), and mentioned squatters rights.
Although I stayed firm in front of him, I'm shaking writing this. I don't know what to do. He really scared me blowing up like that. My questions for the board are -
- Is 2-3 months notice reasonable? We have no contract.
- What do I do if they can't get a new place? Can he invoke squatters rights?
- If I need to document giving notice, how should I go about it?
- Should I tell him not to behave like that to me, or is that risking more wrath?