BG is very important here. This friendship was with a supervisor. She told me that, for various reasons, my position would be eliminated. Because I was dependent upon her for good references, I didn't press the point at the time, that I felt like if she'd gone to bat for me, the decision might have been reversed. So we sort of continued along, and that point was never addressed. I obtained a job elsewhere, and over the summer I was packing to move to the new town to start the new job at the beginning of the school year. We talked several times on the phone and even met for lunch. I helped her with a project she was working on. Then, in July, I was diagnosed with cancer. I moved, and came back a couple of days after the move to have surgery to remove the tumor. I let her know what was happening. However, I haven't received any contact from her since then. She didn't call while I was in the hospital, while I was recuperating at home, or since I've started working again. It's barely possible that she might have heard an update from a mutual friend, but it seems to me that just because one's curiosity is satisfied about a friend's condition, that doesn't remove an obligation to actually call the friend and inquire about their health.
Right now I'm waffling about whether there is any potential for continuing the friendship. I'm pretty hurt about her never calling to find out how the surgery went, and what is my prognosis. I'm hurt that the project I consulted on should have led to a big promotion for her and she hasn't contacted me to let me know what happened. I'm getting the feeling that maybe all along, it was all about how useful I could be to her, and now she's decided that since I'm of no further use, I no longer exist.
All right, Ehellions: should I contact her or just let it go? If I contact her, what should I say? Is telling her how I feel just a refinement of retaliatory rudeness?
