This one has been brewing for a while (about 5 months) and I still have no idea what to do about it, so here it goes.
Peggy is the GF of my coworker Craig. She is prior military, but got out.
Peggy has been very vocal about her issues with PTSD and her time in the sandbox. She has told a lot of people about her traumatizing events. I always only half listened, because she has a history of exaggeration and drama to the highest. She has gone on military charity supported events though, so I figured it was legit.
Well, long story short, it isn't. I always had my suspicions, because these horrible events that were traumatizing to her happened on deployments that either myself or trusted friends had been on. A couple of good books and acquaintances/friends from other bases filled in all the gaping holes in her stories.
Normally, I would just leave it alone. She isn't claiming any medals that she supposedly got, and I can't call organizations telling them not to admit a person. But her and Craig got back together after a 4 year break up (whole different story of crazy). She is now showing up to squadron (work) functions and spouting this stuff off, and I really don't know what to do. The part that kills me the most is that she is harping on me to include her in the list of wounded warriors that I am doing my Tough Mudder for. I've dodged the subject pretty well so far, but I am just trying to do this as polite as possible.
Basically, I'm at a level of extreme disgust an thisclose to hating her, and she wants to be pals. How to I do this politely and not alienate my friend?