BG: When I go to the hospital for my treatments, the basic procedure is that I am given a cup of pills and hooked up to an IV. The stuff going through the IV makes me rather dizzy and nauseous and taking the pills beforehand makes it even worse. After the time that I actually threw up, I quit taking the pills first and now take them at the end (my doctor suggested this). It doesn't matter if I eat before or after the treatment, what is in the IV will still make me feel bad. One of the nurses suggested a light snack, like plain popcorn and fruit juice, that I can eat while it's running. For many people, just having something small to munch on helps, and it helps me almost 100%, so this is what I do now (it is noted in my chart).
Most of the nurses have worked at this hospital or another one for a matter of years and are very experienced and are sometimes more lax in their standards. Not in anything that would endanger a patient, but in letting me snack on popcorn and juice even though there's an unwritten rule about eating or drinking anything but water in the treatment room (technically because there are IVs and blood draws, it's a biohazard, but the likelihood of it actually being an issue is quite low), and letting me take my pills after the IV finishes even though the medication instructions say they should be taken prior (also, my doctor made a note in my file that I take my pills afterwards on his recommendation, so this should override their concerns). I am also very friendly with them and laugh and joke and since I've seen them so much and gotten to know them, we are able to have interesting conversations about more than just the weather.
There are a few nurses who are new. They are all students. They are pleasant enough, and I certainly don't expect them to want to be super friendly with me if that is not their personality or if they don't like me or whatever. But they are extremely formal and overly polite, to the point where I am uncomfortable and considering requesting not having these people as my nurses. All of them refer to me as Ms. Dragon, even though I tell them every single time to please call me Teal. We're all in our early/mid-20s, so the last name thing feels very awkward. Even my 5 year old barn kids don't call me Ms. Dragon! They also insist on checking on me every 30 minutes to ask if I need anything. I understand this may be the recommended protocol, but none of the non-student nurses do this, they understand that I am a very low-maintenance patient and all I need is to sit there and eat my snack and do work on my computer since it means a lot of time out of the office and I've done this enough to know what side effects to watch out for and if I do need anything, to press the call button and they all leave me alone and check on me about once every two hours. The student nurses come in every 30 minutes (treatments are 2-6 hours) and ask if I need anything. They don't ask any medical questions, but they stay there for about 5 or so minutes and check my IV (even though this isn't necessary) and remind me that I need to take my pills and ask me to please take my pills, and I explain that my doctor has told me to wait so I don't get sick, and they always seem awkward and put off by this. They seem like they want to tell me I have to take the pills right then but are just barely managing to hold their tongues, and I feel very scolded, even though I know I'm not actually doing anything wrong. They also always try to tell me I can't eat or drink, and I tell them that I need to or else I will get sick and this has been suggested and approved by other nurses and my doctor. They have the same uncomfortable/scolding-ish reaction. I'm not sure if they are required to do all of this, and if they are, I understand that I can't ask them not to, but since I know it's not medically necessary for me, I find it irritating. I am also very uncomfortable with them not calling me by my first name despite my asking. When they come in my room, I feel like I need to sit up straight and be on my best behavior and cross my ankles the proper way for a lady and all that. They are also all kind of shy I think, which isn't a flaw, I can be too, but it comes out very awkwardly with all of them and I'm just very uncomfortable around them.
Is there any polite way to tell them it's ok to loosen up a little with me and that I prefer being left alone when possible? Or, would it be unreasonable to request the more experienced nurses, and if so, how can I do that without making the student nurses uncomfortable (I am assuming they would find out about the request) or making them look bad? As I said, they are nice people and haven't actually done anything wrong, I wouldn't be un-requesting them because they're bad nurses, but just because I really prefer the other nurses. I'd hate for them to get in any trouble with their professors/bosses over it.
edit: for emphasis, since my post wasn't clear.