Sorry if this is in the wrong place - mods, please can you move it if you think it is necessary?
I have a dilemma in that my partner and I have received an invitation to the evening part of a wedding reception and I am not sure how to respond.
I am in the UK, and this kind of invitation is normal and not considered rude over here, so I am not looking for advice/opinions on the etiquette of this kind of invitation. There will likely be a finger buffet offered and a pay bar with dancing and socialising.
My problem is that I am currently suffering from cancer, and have been for some time, with my health being very up and down and unpredictable. For example, I have spent 2 of the last 3 weeks in hospital, but then I can go several weeks/months where, to the outside, you wouldn't know I was ill! This means that, on the date of the wedding in December, I don't know how I am going to be.
As I see it, our options are to accept the invitation, and let the hosts (parents of he bride) know of my health issues and say we may have to pull out at the last minute - but I don't want to come across as a SS - or just send our regrets now. The groom is a friend of my partner, who I have never met but there will be other friends of his there who I know. I know that my partner would not go without me, although I would be OK with that if he wanted to.
RSVP date is 31 October, so it is looming. I would be grateful for people's input as to what I should do for the best.
Many thanks :-)