Here's what I notice about your description:
I met a guy online and we sent a few emails over the space of about 2 weeks (sometimes he would take days to reply saying work was busy) before he gave me his number and said we should meet once he came back from a work trip overseas. I gave him my number and told him to call me when he got back.
This sounds to me like you both took turns initiating contact over the two week period (not that he always initiated and you just responded). Then, he gave you his
number to initiate phone contact.
So, he texts me the day he gets back (Saturday) and asks if I'm free for coffee on Sunday afternoon. We meet up and it seems to go well but I only have an hour as I had a prior appt so I had to leave. I felt bad because he seemed really nice so I texted him as soon as I got to my appt that it was great to meet him, really sorry I had to rush off, hoped he had a good rest of the afternoon. He replied that we should do it again sometime and I went back with yes, definitely.
He followed up by contacting as soon as he got back--exactly what you requested. He proposed a date, which you
had to limit to an hour because of a prior appointment. Totally understandable, but hearing "Sure I'll meet you, but I'll have to leave after an hour" may have made him have doubts about whether you
were interested. Did you guys ever discuss the possibility of meeting at a more convenient time without a looming appointment? If not, he may have thought you wanted the "out" of an appointment as a way of escaping the date if you didn't enjoy it.
The text conversation you describe sounds like both of you agreed in vague terms that you'd enjoyed it, but neither of you made any attempt to suggest any specifics of seeing each other again. In fact, it sounds a lot like the customary "We should do lunch sometime" script that is stereotypically used with acquaintances you don't actually want to meet up with.
Then I heard nothing from him. At all. After a week I decided he wasn't interested and as he was a stranger I'd only met for an hour I decided not to worry. I had thought he seemed like a good guy, the kind you could have a laugh with and could be good friends but I wasn't immediately attracted to him. Although I only knew him for an hour.... When friends asked if I'd heard from him and it was more than a week now they all said, forget him.
Then last night he texted me, after just over 2 weeks! He said "hi, how's things, are you free Weds or Thurs? I am if you want to meet up?"
Do I bother or is the fact he waited 2 weeks to contact me a big no no? I mean, I liked him, he seemed a nice guy but I'm not sure I was interested enough to bother now after all this time and actually I'm not free this week anyway.
If he'd contacted me earlier I would have said yes because he was nice and funny and I'd be curious to see if there was any attraction, but now, I have kind of written him off and I don't think he has time to be the kind of relationship I'm looking for if he really is that busy.
From my perspective:
- He was the first to offer non-email contact information by giving you his phone number--Suggests interest and suggests that he doesn't assume the man does all the calling/inviting in a relationship.
- He not only contacted you when he was back in town, as requested, but he called you the day he got back--suggests interest.
- He offered the initial invitation to a date--suggests interest
- You limited the date to an hour, without counter-suggesting a time without a looming appointment--may well have suggested that you weren't interested.
- You exchanged vague texts about enjoying the date and wanting to "do it again sometime"--neutral
- Neither of you initiated contact for two weeks, despite having at least two ways to contact each other (email and phone)--I don't see why this would indicate disinterest on his part any more than in indicates disinterest on yours. If anything, he may have thought it was your "turn" to suggest a date or at least make contact and your silence suggested to him that you weren't really interested in a second date.
- He was the first to re-initiate contact--sounds interested to me.
You can turn down a date for any reason, and if you expect the man to do all the inviting/calling or be in more frequent contact, then he may not be the right guy for you. But I don't think it would be reasonable to assume he was uninterested when you don't seem to have made any more attempt at contact than he did.