So i'm a member of a roller derby league. There's only about 17 members at the moment. About half of the group have kids. Generally, kids arn't at training (twice a week). Every now and then someone does have to bring their child, but its usually a small baby (so he just sleeps the whole time) or a older child (she just plays her game console or reads the whole time).
We often do social events etc that we make family friendly. And we also go on trips to attend other league games etc which arnt so family friendly ie long drive on mini-buses, watch game, go out for some drinks after, long drive home.
We recently got a new member who has 3 children, ages 4,6,8. She has a habit of bring her 2 youngest to training probably about once every 2 weeks. The mum tries to set them up with toys in the corner but these kids cannot sit still for more than 10 mins. The littlest one especially is always trying to run after her mum. Its becoming quite dangerous for everyone involved, as we only have a small space to roll around. No one has really said anything at this point because it feels a bit hypocritical tell her to find a babysitter when we let the other ladies who have the baby and older kid bring them. Is there a polite way of telling this woman to stop bringing her kids without being mean about it?
Also when we ask the group about whether people can attend upcoming trips, she's started making comments about wanting to come but how hard it is with the kids. It seems to us like she's hinting for someone to be all like 'oh well sure, bring the kids along!' So far we all kind of just stay quiet when she says this. Is there a better way to handle it?