All towns and all neighborhoods are different. Small towns can be very inclusive or very insular. My parents are an example.
My mother came from a place we'll call 'Raisintown'. my father came from a place we'll call 'Prunetown'. The two villages are within easy walking distance but they were very different. The friends of my mother's parents always referred to my father as, 'That stump-jumper from Prunetown'. That was because Raisintown had electric light and indoor plumbing. Many Raisintown children went to high school. Prune town residents did not necessarily enjoy these benefits. My father left school to help on the farm when he was 13.
Prunetown was right on the river. When there was the danger of flooding, Raisintown people would be there to help place sandbags, provide food and temporary lodging.
Under normal circumstances, the people of the two villages did not mix very much. Members of Prunetown churches would work with members of the same denomination in Raisintown But that was about the limit of interaction.
When my in-laws retired they moved to a place where they had a house and visited during the summer and during ski season. They thought they would be immediately accepted into the
community. They were not. All their friends in their new community were other people from 'away'. The locals were cordial but not what you would call friendly.
My in-laws never grasped something that's important when trying to be accepted into a small community. They didn't read the death notices in the local paper and that can be something very important.
You read that Mr. James Jones has died at X age. A wake will be held for Mr. James Jones at Y Funeral Home from 7 to 9 pm on Friday evening. He is survived by his son, George Jones. George is the proprietor of the body shop where you go to have your car cared for.
If you want to become a part of your new community, you will make an appearance at the wake for George's Dad. You are strangers so the visit can be a simple thing. All you have to do is say that we never knew James but we've done business with George for many years. We are sorry for your loss and our prayers are with the family.
In a small town you will never be wrong to attend a wake or a funeral which you are not expected to attend. If you are expected to attend and fail to do so, bad feelings can continue through generations.