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quiescent:
The b/g is that the office I work at people have all been working together for 3+ yrs so all really know eachother well. Its a small office too so there isnt many people.

Anyway. At lunch time everyone goes away from the office to lunch places together every day, and even though I am in the office when they go I am never invited. I think I get along great with all of them. I would like to go with them at lunch time instead of eating my lunch in the office by myself because they've all gone out together.

Would it be considered rude for me to invite myself for lunch with them or just go with them without aksing?

mbbored:
Maybe you should consider inviting them. Perhaps mention one afternoon that you're tired of bagged lunches and ask if anybody wants to grab lunch the next day?

Kaypeep:
POD.  Invite one, or some, of them to lunch.  I think it's kind of rude to invite yourself, though I'd ask if they would bring you back an order if you gave them money.  That might let them know you like the place they go, and help open the door to getting you into the lunch crew.

Deetee:
I'll go against the grain. If everyone goes together every day, I think it is fine to say " mind if I join you today?".

It sounds like it's a habit, not an exclusion of you.

Normally inviting yourself is a no-no but this is not a special, no one is hosting and it just seems easiest to tag along, rather than create a new event.

tangelloyellow:
They could just be ignorant to the fact that they haven't 'invited' you.


--- Quote from: Deetee on November 02, 2012, 11:27:39 PM ---I'll go against the grain. If everyone goes together every day, I think it is fine to say " mind if I join you today?".

It sounds like it's a habit, not an exclusion of you.

Normally inviting yourself is a no-no but this is not a special, no one is hosting and it just seems easiest to tag along, rather than create a new event.

--- End quote ---

I agree with this.

I might even say something like "Where are you headed to for lunch?". That may prompt an invitation. If not, "Cool, me too". If you go out for lunch with them once you will soon know whether they haven't invited you because they didn't want you there. But if you get along great with them it is probably more likely just a habit to walk out and possibly assuming you will follow them.

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