*There seems to be some downplaying of the hurricane's effects in this thread, which I find disturbing. The combination of the loss of heat and power, the extraordinary gas shortages, and the gridlock some areas are experiencing (as a result of public transport systems being severely compromised) make a 1 hour commute a nightmare scenario.
I don't know... I think there is some serious assumptions about apocalypse too. Yes some areas - like LadyL's! - took a major hit. People lost everything. Truly those people are in emergency situations.
Other areas in the same cities, sometimes even just 1 mile from devastation only lost a few trees. I live in Queens, which has had some of the worse devastation of any area such as Breezy Point and the Rockaways, and which still in NY has the most power outages. But my neighborhood? Not one single reported personal injury, loss of power or anything. A few people lost cars to falling trees, some windows were broken and some streets were blocked. My personal biggest hassles have been my commute and figuring out exactly what was most needed as far as donations and what I could afford to give. I'm not even affected by the gas shortage as DH and I filled up by chance right before the storm and we hardly drive - that tank, like every other tank, we expect to last us at least
I'm guessing from the very vague descriptions here LadyL is in the 5 boro's and her friend is from north, like Westchester. The gas situation on the islands (Manhattan, Staten Island, and Long Island (which geographically includes Queens & Brooklyn)) is a LOT worse then the gas situation on the mainland USA. Are there lines up in the Boogiedown? Yes. Are people camping out in 12 hour lines up there like they are on an island? No.
Not to mention trains are
running. As are buses - the buses are NOT suffering for the gas shortage - trust and believe they are getting priority for gas.
And the friend isn't asking for emergency accommodations. He's asking for convenience accommodations. He can get by without crashing with LadyL, its just easier for him to stay with her. In her area that is a mere 4 blocks from devastation.
Through the aftermath of this storm I have seen some heartwarming and amazing examples of humanity. It took me 3 hours to give red blood cells yesterday because the donation site was so PACKED. The piles of donations I have seen and the coordination efforts are incredible. The outpouring of help being offered officially and socially are beautiful.
But you know what? I've seen and read and heard some of the most selfish things too. People complaining they are bored
without power. People grousing that they haven't gotten mail promptly. People lambasting MTA workers as lazy and incompetent. People horrified at the very suggestion they should use services like public laundromats.
If LadyL's friend had lost his home, or even just lost his furniture, or if he was stranded, if he was in a true emergency, absolutely that's a situation for a friend to step up and suffer a bit for survival. But if he merely is asking for a favor of convenience, that's really a different story and not one LadyL should be guilted into accommodating.