One of DH's relatives has given me the cut direct and has DH in the very chilly politeness area. When DH and I were dating, first got married, etc. this person was lovely and friendly. But for the past few months, almost a year really, they've border on civil/chilly politeness to us. They would speak when spoken to, answer questions about their kids and that was it. Well, for the last few weeks, they have ignored my presence completely.
THey will still greet DH but turn away from completely as if I'm not there. I don't know if they acknowledged DD or not. This is a close relative so I can't just write them off and go on as they will be a many shared family functions. They did this once before when I found out DH and I were expecting DD. They and their spouse had been trying to get pregnant for a while, so I chocked it to them being upset that they were actually trying everything short of IVF to get pregnant and DH and I had done it almost by accident. A few weeks later, when they found out they were expecting as well, everything went back to normal.
Then they started getting chillier and chillier everytime we met, but still civil. A few months ago, it became that we were person non grata. They have not even acknowledge our current pregnancy (and they are close enough that they should have at least said congrats or something). They aren't planning anymore kids, so that shouldn't be the reason. Also, they congratulated another relative on the same issue right in front of us a few weeks ago then walked away as if we weren't standing there talking to the same person.
Is there anyway I can politely find out what we've done to them and apologize if necessary? Or is it a violation of the cut direct to try to find out? I am at such a loss. I can't imagine what I or DH have done to get this level of cut direct. Also, I don't want to cause tension in our family because at this point, its uncomfortable to even be at the same function together.