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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #15 on: November 08, 2012, 01:12:37 AM »
I agree with those who say it isn't rude to decline, but it is rude to broadcast one's reasons. 

If given the opportunity, I would decline, but I would keep my reasons to myself, as they are slightly different than people would think.

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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #16 on: November 08, 2012, 11:57:13 AM »
Princess Diana has been dead over 15 years. I think it's time to let it go. If her oldest son can have Camilla stand up at his wedding as the (step) mother of the groom I think a person who never knew her has no place to refuse to meet them 'on her behalf'

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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #17 on: November 08, 2012, 12:33:34 PM »
I don't think anyone needs to let anything go and they can refuse to meet anybody they please.  I, myself, have no interest in meeting more than a few well-known people.  But even if I agree with the reasons and opinion about a person (and I'm not saying I do or don't in this case), telling the world just feels so tacky, attention-seeking, and undignified to me.  YMMV.

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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #18 on: November 08, 2012, 12:48:32 PM »
I agree that it's tacky and undignified to tweet about it, or share it with the world, but I don't think it's an etiquette issue.  Being tacky or undignified isn't rude.  What about this situation makes it an etiquette violation?

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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #19 on: November 08, 2012, 01:01:03 PM »
Princess Diana has been dead over 15 years. I think it's time to let it go. If her oldest son can have Camilla stand up at his wedding as the (step) mother of the groom I think a person who never knew her has no place to refuse to meet them 'on her behalf'

This, so much. At this point, it just smacks of pure meanness and vitriol.
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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #20 on: November 08, 2012, 02:20:00 PM »
I agree that it's tacky and undignified to tweet about it, or share it with the world, but I don't think it's an etiquette issue.  Being tacky or undignified isn't rude.  What about this situation makes it an etiquette violation?

It is like saying "Ewwww! I don't want to eat this!" at a dinner party, instead of gracefully declining. You can like whatever/whoever you want, you can think whatever you want, but the only thing that should come out of your mouth is "No, thank you."
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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #21 on: November 08, 2012, 04:05:44 PM »
I agree that it's tacky and undignified to tweet about it, or share it with the world, but I don't think it's an etiquette issue.  Being tacky or undignified isn't rude.  What about this situation makes it an etiquette violation?

It is like saying "Ewwww! I don't want to eat this!" at a dinner party, instead of gracefully declining. You can like whatever/whoever you want, you can think whatever you want, but the only thing that should come out of your mouth is "No, thank you."

Also this is one of the more watched morning shows in Australia, so it's not like a private conversation among friends. There's a very real chance that Charles and Camilla would hear about it. If she'd had this conversation down at the pub with a couple of her bffs then it wouldn't worry me. It's having it on national television in a country where these people are currently visiting that makes it rude to me.

Also many people (not me!) care what television personalities say. By dredging up something like that it is bringing it to the forefront of people's minds and it may well make Charles' and Camilla's visit a little less pleasant than otherwise. My personal view is that the British Royal Family should have no dominion over Australia, but I have nothing personal against them and they are currently guests in 'my home'.
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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #22 on: November 10, 2012, 07:10:46 PM »
Princess Diana has been dead over 15 years. I think it's time to let it go. If her oldest son can have Camilla stand up at his wedding as the (step) mother of the groom I think a person who never knew her has no place to refuse to meet them 'on her behalf'

I would somewhat disagree.  I think you can refuse to meet them for any reason you want, be it that you object to colonialism or that Prince Charles wears ugly ties. However, broadcasting that reason is not necessary.

I admit, though, that it is a pretty eyerolling reason.
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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #23 on: November 10, 2012, 08:11:34 PM »
I agree with those who say it isn't rude to decline, but it is rude to broadcast one's reasons. 


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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #24 on: November 12, 2012, 12:07:53 AM »
I think in retrospect what I found most distasteful about it was that she went to the 'free champagne tent' rather than meet Camilla and Charles, which says to me that you're happy to take advantage of and enjoy the hospitality of your hosts, but not willing to take time to extend a basic courtesy to another guest who is a foreign dignitary.

Kind of on a par with someone who comes to the wedding only for the free meal and open bar and doesn't take the time to greet the hosts or thank them for their hospitality at the end of the evening...

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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #25 on: November 12, 2012, 12:24:31 AM »
I think in retrospect what I found most distasteful about it was that she went to the 'free champagne tent' rather than meet Camilla and Charles, which says to me that you're happy to take advantage of and enjoy the hospitality of your hosts, but not willing to take time to extend a basic courtesy to another guest who is a foreign dignitary.

Kind of on a par with someone who comes to the wedding only for the free meal and open bar and doesn't take the time to greet the hosts or thank them for their hospitality at the end of the evening...

Were they the hosts?  This is a little unclear to me.  Were they the hosts, honored guests, what?  And if they we re the hosts where do the funds come from? Does the money for them to host those kinds of shindigs come from taxes or some other source? I realize it gets a little political but I think that hosting on the government dime might be a bit different than hosting on your own.

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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #26 on: November 12, 2012, 06:22:51 AM »
My SIL once had a chance to be in a receiving line to meet (then) President Bill Clinton. She decided to stand in line for a hot dog instead.

But she doesn't tweet about it.


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Re: Refusing to meet the Royals
« Reply #27 on: November 12, 2012, 03:54:19 PM »
You can refuse to meet someone on moral grounds.  You lose on etiquette grounds when you tweet about it afterward.