We went out to eat last night at a very nice fondue restaurant; there were five of us. When it came time to order, the server did not write down our selections...except he couldn't remember them. I don't mean he came back to ask later what it was, just here and there forgetting "Did you say medium or medium rare?". I mean that he stood there and constantly forgot what it was. Here is what I mean:
A, ordered an entree.
B, ordered an entree and a salad Chez.
C, ordered a salad Chez.
D, ordered an entree and a salad 2.
E, did not order.
Server, "So B, that was a...3 salad?"
B, "No, a 1 salad."
Server, "OK, so a 1 salad, a 2 salad for D, and a 2 salad for C?"
C, "No, a 1 salad."
He then repeated them correctly.
Then the server went on to repeat the entrees, except he got those wrong pretty much just like he did with the salads. Then, when he went back to the salads, we had to remind him one more time.
The moment he was out of earshot, A (Mental Mom) said, "Write it down maybe?"
C (Me) said, "I was going to suggest, but I couldn't figure out how without it sounding snarky. I decided to just keep my mouth shut instead."
The rest of the group (Mental Boyfriend, Mental Sister, and her husband) all agreed.
Here is my question: Should I have said anything? If so, how could I have said it that wouldn't sound mean? Even when I said in my head, "Maybe it would help to write it down," I sounded condescending and belittling without even intending to. He wasn't an inexperienced server, not new (I could tell), he didn't seem flustered either, just apologetic that he couldn't get it straight, smiling the whole time.