Please do not be in fear of my ability to be "mean" when I have the authority to do so. I have absolutely no problem telling someone what they need to do for me and to do it now, when I have the authority to do so. Part of the problem is that this is a fellow coworker; I do not have the "authority" so to speak. We are peers, and thus I am approaching this differently.
I may not be working with him immediately for the reasons Deetee brought up, but in a short time there is a possibility that I may. I do not want to be in the position of him thinking, "She snubbed me once, in front of everyone, so I'm not going to do my job today just to get back at her."
JenJay, this isn't Bernie from my other thread. However, I will be working with both Bernie, too.
LEMon: We were sitting on the bleachers. Gregory (the one I am having problems with) was sitting on the first bench. I was sitting one bench up and to his right. Another coworker, Michael, was sitting another bench up to my right.
Gregory: (Some mundane comment about dogs).
MM: That's cool. (Fully turns her back to Gregory to face Michael (remember, he's up and to my right while Gregory is down and to my left)) Do you have a Turtleshell or a Coconut Shell?
Gregory: We have a Turtleshell, Coconut Shell, and a Pea Pod.
You should have seen Michael's eyes; I thought they were going to bug out of his head.