My DIY skills are not flash. I can do a number of things to an acceptable standard but I am aware of my limitations and know when I need to get the professionals in. My father (80) however does not and it is not unusual to come home and find he is at my house making a pigs ear out of some project he has embarked on without my knowledge. Decks and fences hold a particular fascination for him. He really does think he is helping and thinks he does a good job but if you could see the state of the deck he replaced you would weep. It must surely be the worst built deck in Christendom. Builders who have seen it are amazed by it wondering how such a simple thing could have gone so badly wrong.
I'm stripping down some windows at the moment as the need repainting and it has become apparent I need to get a glazier in to take out the glass, clean out the frames and reset them. My Dad thinks 'Oh I'll come over and just throw some new putty around them and they will be fine." I see that as a half baked solution. A kind of patch up job which wont last and won't address the underlying problems.
No amount of explanation of the many reasons I want it done professionally gets through to him. He thinks I am being fussy, maybe I am, but I know what his 'good enough' results in and it is not good at all. I really don't want to hurt his feelings but I simply cannot handle the thought of him popping round and just doing it anyway. He shouldn't be faffing around with my house in the first place and it wouldn't be so bad if he did a half way decent job. It takes every tiny shred of self control I have to remain calm and polite trying to stop him from doing these things. I am nearly at the stage where if I see him here with a can off putty in his hands I will call the police. I know puttying windows is not a crime, but my reaction may well be.
How do you tell someone their 'good enough' is nowhere close to good when they really can't see it?