Author Topic: I do believe I have been blown off.  (Read 4604 times)

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bopper

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Re: I do believe I have been blown off.
« Reply #30 on: November 16, 2012, 09:57:27 AM »
She may have a different personality type from you...
In the MyersBriggs Personality Types, one aspect is that in dealing with the outside world, do you prefer to get things decided or do you prefer to stay open to new information and options? This is called Judging (J) or Perceiving (P).  If your friend is a perceiver, then she may not prefer to have all her plans made ahead of time.


Judgers:
I like to have things decided.
I appear to be task oriented.
I like to make lists of things to do.
I like to get my work done before playing.
I plan work to avoid rushing just before a deadline.
Sometimes I focus so much on the goal that I miss new information.

Perceivers:
I like to stay open to respond to whatever happens.
I appear to be loose and casual. I like to keep plans to a minimum.
I like to approach work as play or mix work and play.
I work in bursts of energy.
I am stimulated by an approaching deadline.
Sometimes I stay open to new information so long I miss making decisions when they are needed.

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Re: I do believe I have been blown off.
« Reply #31 on: November 16, 2012, 11:17:24 AM »
But this is someone who has been asking the OP for weeks if the time off was approved yet. And then when it is ... she dismisses the information.

I could understand why that would make someone feel blown off, honestly.

This is where I sit.  I'm sure that there may be plenty of reasons/personality traits that prevent her from planning ahead to January.  But when she's been asking about time off for weeks and then doesn't even offer a "I'd like to see you but need some time to see what else is going on before I can commit to specific dates. When do you need to know for sure?" then it does feel and look a lot like a blow off.

I don't blame the OP one bit for how she feels about this.