I've hit my first quandary with school birthday party invites. A little background: I have twin 4 yr old boys who currently attend preschool but are in different classes.
DS2 came home today with a birthday party invitation from one of his classmates. This invitation does not include DS1 as I'm sure none of the other parents know DS2 is a twin & that is totally OK with me. The problem is my DH will be in finals study mode for his last semester of law school (ugh) plus he has a paper due the day after the classmate's birthday party. Which means he most likely cannot stay home with DS1 while I take DS2 to the party (I'm guessing parents usually stay at parties for 4 yrs old right? This is a first for us so I don't know
For further reference, DH will also be missing a family birthday party the day before the classmate's birthday party due to studying/writing which is actually be what I would want him to stay home for instead of a classmate's party but it's the second to last time it'll happen so we'll deal. I'm not sure I can get a family member to babysit DS1 due to the family party the day before & people needing time to get stuff done on the weekend (but I'm going to ask around just in case) & we don't have a babysitter in the wings as we haven't really needed one for a few years.
Due to the above is it OK for me to (1) email the birthday boy mom & ask if this is a drop off party & if it's not (2) ask if DS1 can attend if I don't have someone to watch him? I would totally bring a gift from each of them for the birthday boy if DS1 was allowed to attend but if DS1 could not come, I had to stay & I didn't have someone to watch DS1 then DS2 most likely could not go. Which is a bummer but that's life.
Life will be so much easier when this law school & bar exam madness is over. Sigh.