It's DH's brother and his wife.
I would have DH ask his brother, but well, our husbands are not known for their ability make food arrangements, and I have a feeling there would be all kinds of follow up questions so I was hoping to just address SIL directly. SIL and I *do* talk/text, etc, just not regularly/daily. ie - she sent me a text a few weeks back - "Hey - anything special you want for your birthday?" - so we are friendly, we just don't have a lot in common that would inspire us to text/talk all the time, kwim?
I have a feeling that if I were to send a text with simply - "Hey - glad you can come for turkey day! we were thinking of around noon..." She'd respond with something along the lines of - "Me Too! noon is good. Can I bring something?" - so...I guess I was just hoping to streamline the process. lol
I suppose I could do a group text to her *and* BIL - stating that I'm glad they can come, give them the time, and ask if they would mind bringing salad? Maybe that would be better as in the past many of our conflicts have been over their late arrival for family events only to find out SIL never communicated with BIL that they were actually supposed to be there at a specific time.
What do y'all think of that?
(EAT: corrected wording that indicated a generalization about men in general not being able to organize food plans!