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Raintree

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Re: When a former friend realizes they're "former"
« Reply #45 on: November 19, 2012, 09:34:57 PM »
I figure this is going to go one of two ways: either she steps up her efforts, or based on her previous experiences with "mean people" she immediately starts telling people I'm the most evil person ever.

We have the same ex-friend!! I have written several threads about mine. I know for a fact I have joined the ranks of all the other mean people in her life (there seem to be a lot of them). It's awfully nice not to be dealing with her anymore, but at the same time, why do I feel so guilty?

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Re: When a former friend realizes they're "former"
« Reply #46 on: November 20, 2012, 01:06:01 AM »


Any guilt is probably due to being "mean" to the person you thought they were, the nice one.
Or just because many of us have free-floating guilt....


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Re: When a former friend realizes they're "former"
« Reply #47 on: November 20, 2012, 10:39:46 AM »
The guilt is because you feel like you ought to be able to change things.

You can't--you don't have the power. Once you recognize that, you might be able to let go of the guilt.