DH is working Thanksgiving and, since his employer is feeding him, has told me not to fix dinner. That leaves me with two alternatives: go to my nephew and his wife's house or take my SIL (from the drink thread) to a restaurant. I have been invited to my nephew's house and have made no plans with SIL. However, the past 2-3 years, DH and I have either taken dinner to SIL's apartment or have hosted her at a restaurant, so there may be an expectation on her part that we will do the same this year.
This year, I would rather go to my nephew's, but do not want to hurt my SIL's feelings. DH says he will let her know he is working, but how do we explain that I won't be available to take her out on Thursday?