BG: I have two nephews.
Nephew1 is 14 yrs old and his name is Riley. Nephew 2 is 16 yrs old and his name is Will. My brother is their father, but they have different mothers.
For reasons that I don't really want to get into here, Will has not been a part of our family. That started to change last year.
I do not live in the same area as the rest of my family, so I met Will for the first time around Christmas last year. We had communicated through facebook before that. When we met, I gave him his Christmas present. It was a card(with a note) and cash. I didn't receive a thank you.
I gave Riley the same amount of cash and did receive a thank you. End BG.
So, I am a little bitter about not receiving the thanks, since it was a good amount of cash. I know I shouldn't be, but that's just how I feel. I haven't spent all year thinking about it, but I did the majority of my Christmas shopping yesterday and started thinking about this years gift to Will. I don't want to let this cloud my judgement, but if I am going to be honest, it did bug me.
I am going to give Riley the same amount of cash as last year. Should I also give Will the same amount of cash? My relationship with Will is almost non existent, but I have a very good relationship with Riley.
Will says that he is going to be spending Christmas with my side of the family this year, so that does change things.
Maybe I made him uncomfortable by giving him that kind of present when we didn't really know each other. I haven't really spoken to him since.
I am really confused about what I should do here. Any advice or input is appreciated.