As far as the information being shown and upfront during the auction, I have seen lovely displays that could not be "misplaced."
It involves plastic sleeves and/or photocopies, or even photographs of said gift offer.
Potential buyers may think, "Oh, I will get it in blue instead of green, use it in far city, save for three months later, transfer to friend, etc..." It should be well laid out before a bid is ever made. Buyer beware, but the seller should inform the buyer!
Sometimes the packets do have date restrictions, so I know how/if to bid.
Turkey Lady may have set her own restrictions that no one else knew about, and the church has no idea she changed it. Perhaps she collected from other businesses, and other buyers are also now frustrated by her imposed restrictions.
Once I have collected for a prize donation, I do not do a follow-up of who "won the bid" or then if it has been used. In a way, it is a gift
, and the recipient decides how/when/if to use it.
My goodness, once I "bought" some funky magnetic jewelry to be made for me, but the woman wound up with a closing business and then cancer. That one, I wrote off (not for taxes, but wrote off my life, because it would be a hardship for her to honor it.)
Turkey lady was overly involved, whether by design (to get it for herself) or by busy-bodiness.
For next year, all potential restrictions need to be up front and Turkey Lady needs to be less a part of it. Yes, the church needs to be told.
Anyone wishing they still had turkey leftovers yet? Ours are all eaten, but this thread is making me hungry!