here is my take on it, being someone who has chaired many H&S (PTA, for some) fundraisers, and beause of my business, been in the position to donate quite a bit of product to causes.
Turkey Mom is just 15 kinds of wrong.
I don't care of she thought a dinner was going to go to waste. I don't care if she set it up so she could get the donation. I don't even care if she PAID for the dinner and was worried that it was going to waste.
When you solicit a donation (or donate your own money for an event/cause), it ceases to become "yours". It's just like a gift that you can't dictate how it is used. It is a GIFT.
About 18 months ago, I won a Karate party for 12 ($250 value) at a local studio as part of my $5/head Bingo Night at a school event. It is likely that I will NEVER use that voucher. We had a fun family night for $25, I actually won 3 other rounds....just this prize, I probably won't be using
But if anyone else tried to "redeem" that offer because I had yet to do so? I would be raising Cain!. it's MY choice what to do with that prize. If I want to give that karate studio the opportunity to declare a charitable donation that was never redeemed? That is the winner's choice. Not the donor's choice.
The church should be made aware of what Turkey Lady has done!