The "art of group conversation" thread got me thinking about this but I didn't want to hijack that thread.
I am a part of an organization that brings people together to do an activity of common interest (think Meetup, but it's not). As such, I'm always meeting new people.
There was one woman on an outing the other night who I thought talked a bit too much, but that's all part and parcel of joining groups. But she would ask me a question, and then not wait for the answer before asking another, related question, that she wouldn't have needed to ask had she waited to hear my answer.
Here's how it went:
Her: "Do you like your purple slippers?" (Not really purple slippers but a piece of equipment integral to the activity we were doing that evening).
Me: Yes, very much.
Her: "Oh, I was thinking of buying that kind so I wanted to see what you think of them since they're a bit pricey, I want to know if they are worth it."
Me: "Yes, I see you have the Green kind. Those are OK for Activity Z but if you are doing stuff like this, you'll probably find you're having Problem X."
Her: "Yes, that's exactly the problem I'm having with them. Where did you get yours?"
(Here's where the conversation got impossible):
Me: "I got them at Purple Store. But I got a good deal because..."
Her: "Oh are they cheaper at Purple?"
Me: "No, they are the same price, but I got a good deal because...."
Her: "Well how much were they?"
Me: "I can't remember, I got mine 3 years ago, but here's what you can do..."
Her: "So maybe around $300?"
Me: "Well maybe, I don't remember, but here's the thing, I got them used because......"
Her: "Oh, I didn't know Purple Store had used equipment!!"
Me: "They don't. I got mine used because they also rent Purple Slippers, and they sell off their rentals at the end of the season. So what I did..."
Her: "Oh!! So how much of a discount do they sell them at?"
Me: "Well I don't remember...but....what I did...."
Her: "So, like 20%?"
Me: "I really don't remember. But if you rent up to 5 times, you save your receipts and they will apply your rental fees to the cost of a purchase, and THEN....."
Her: "Oh! So you don't get a discount on the actual Purple Slippers, but your rental fee is applied to the purchase."
Me: "No. What I am saying is, I tried out different ones as rentals over the season to see if I liked them, and at the end, you can use what you paid for rentals towards a purchase. ANY purchase, new or used. They ALSO sell off their rentals at the end of the season, at a discount. So if you can buy one of their old rentals, you not only get a discount because it's used, but you can ALSO apply what you've paid for rentals that season and get a further discount. So I got a good deal because of the dual savings of using my rental fees AND getting a discount on their old rentals."
She understood that last, but my, what an effort to get it out!! I was trying to tell her how to save a few bucks on the Purple Slippers she wanted, but what a production to get enough "air time" to be allowed to explain it to her! Would it be rude to say, "Hang on, hang on, I'm trying to explain this to you"??
FWIW, I've had friends that do this too, and I find ANY conversation with them exhausting.