Yes I am planning to enjoy myself I took today off as a personal day and I decorated the house, made cookies and did some XMAS shopping.
I was really sad - shocked mostly, the hatred and venom this women spewed out at me was really crazy. This had nothing to do with the databases, it was about some other aspect of the project.
RE the database work. When I started volunteering - I kept my technical background under wraps - I was volunteering ro do fun stuff: run fundraisers, ,make food baskets, etc. However they got something so messed up with their computer system it would have taken $$$$ to fix - so I offered to fix it.
The database work I do now annually is no fun, it involves updating a database with close to 2,000 records utilizing volunteers and creating mailing lists, shopping lists etc. The work is way below what I do professionally ( definitely within my skill set though ) - but it isn't fun. No one else will touch it and I am always asked every year to manage this part. Service is not always about the fun stuff, at some point somone has to do grunt work .... so I did it.
I would be more than happy to give it up and I am very happy now. I had a very nice, fun group of volunteers who helped me do the scut work from a grandma ,a disabled gentleman and a couple hip 25 year old we had a lot of fun and laughs and always got the work done.
I offered to help another volunteer lead because her section involved some PC work and she had a lot on her plate personally she and I get along really well and she was happy I was helping her. Dee semed to just target in on me for whatever reason.
But - THANK YOU ALL FOR LISTENING... IT HELPS ME PROCESS.
I am polite but formal / cold to the leadership, I am not helping them out - it needs to be painful. And of course ... Dee and Circus Monkey know EVERYTHING and should be able to figure it out.
So - All things happen for a reason, I have really looked at my conduct to see if I was at fault or provoked it ..... but I do not honestly think I did. Even if the powers that be wanted me to work on something else or wanted me to go sweep up trash - there is a way to redirect volunteers. I've had to do it ... you say Sally .... you are so good at sorting pink and blue ponies, would you be willing to do that this year and let Jane answer phones ? and you go from there.
Hopefully drama has ended ... I run the risk of being a drama llama for XMAS.
My cookies are done ... they are M & M 's - you may each have one before dinner