I sent all the data over last night and said that's it, I believe I tied up all my loose ends. Get a message back from my supposed friend the chairman of the committee... Oh this is sooooo complicated ( why yes it is ) ... and even if you are not helping out, I am sure you will come and walk me all through this in 10 months time.
I want to respond very rudely, but in this case the silence will be deafening. I am being used. Really, I get bullied out, no response from the board - but I am going to help you figure it all out next year. I am really not that desperate for friends and especially this kind of falsity.
Its called consequences people .
I wonder if it would be better to respond now with a quick, "I'm afraid that won't be possible."
1) It prevents the organization from being left in the lurch next year.
2) It doesn't allow the board to stay in denial and pretend that there will be no consequences from your leaving or for allowing Dee to continue to behave as she does.
3) It prevents you from being sucked back in to helping them next year, when you may have had time to calm down and your (totally appropriate and deserved) indignation gives way to missing the work you did for the organization and being willing to help.
Let them feel the consequences now, before they can paint it with a big denial-ly brush of their choosing.
I agree with weeblewobble. That way, they can't come back to you in 10 months' time and protest "but you said you'd help out!" I know you haven't said you will help them, POF, but that I am sure you will come and walk me all through this in 10 months time
means they're going to think you've agreed unless you actually tell them "no, I won't".
I'd be tempted to reply "I'm sure Dee can sort it all out for you."
I hope you find an organisation that will appreciate you and your abilities, POF. I think everyone would agree this organisation doesn't.