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Wittyone

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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #75 on: December 09, 2012, 10:29:30 AM »
I once read that when you're decluttering, ask yourself - If I were moving, would I keep this or get rid of it?

I would much rather get rid of things than pack them, so this works for me.

I've heard that when decluttering you take each item and ask yourself "keep or toss". If you don't know the answer immediately then toss it because you are only taking the time to justify keeping it.  The stuff you know you need/want to keep you know immediately, everything else is justification, which means you don't really need it.  This has served me pretty well, although I'm not a pack rat.  My DH tends to be though and this works pretty well for him to, when I can get him to go through stuff.
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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #76 on: December 10, 2012, 04:00:54 AM »
We are decluttering our storage room at the moment, and I swear some of that stuff just doesn't want to go.

In our area, the problem of getting rid of things is more of a bureaucratic one. Everything has to go into the recycling bins, or the recycling centre for items that don't have a specific bin, or you get fined. However the recycling centre will only allow users in if they are driving a car (no walk-ins), and over half the local households don't have access to a vehicle... ::)

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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #77 on: December 12, 2012, 05:05:39 PM »
What an interesting thread!  It has reminded me that it's about time to go through the storage room again and purge!  My closet also needs a serious culling of clothes.  It's getting crowded nd I know I'm just wearing the same stuff over and over again.




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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #78 on: December 12, 2012, 09:09:19 PM »
Just gave a friend some old magazines, in good condition, to try and sell on eBay! One less thing cluttering up the house (okay, it was at my parents' house). My friend can keep the money, I will just be happy knowing that the magazines went to people who were really looking for them. And if something doesn't sell, she has my permission to trash it. But hopefully things will sell well enough that she'll want more, because... I have more.  :P
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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #79 on: December 13, 2012, 10:45:24 AM »
Does anyone else feel as though they're not getting anywhere with decluttering? I can see the bag of clothing to donate/recycle filling up, but the drawers I'm going through look just as full as before.

There are places I know I'm making progress--notably my bedroom closet--but the lack of apparent progress isn't helping me here.
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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #80 on: December 13, 2012, 10:58:19 AM »
Does anyone else feel as though they're not getting anywhere with decluttering? I can see the bag of clothing to donate/recycle filling up, but the drawers I'm going through look just as full as before.

There are places I know I'm making progress--notably my bedroom closet--but the lack of apparent progress isn't helping me here.

I had that issue when I decluttered my clothing (need to take another look soon, too). It might help to stop once you’ve gathered a big bag to get rid of, then work on organizing what is left—refolding, moving things into better drawers if needed, etc. I found that helped me better identify what was left, and started to make it look like less when I had things grouped well and the t-shirts actually folded instead of just thrown into a pile in the t-shirt drawer.

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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #81 on: December 13, 2012, 11:01:12 AM »
Does anyone else feel as though they're not getting anywhere with decluttering? I can see the bag of clothing to donate/recycle filling up, but the drawers I'm going through look just as full as before.

There are places I know I'm making progress--notably my bedroom closet--but the lack of apparent progress isn't helping me here.

It's like housework - it's on a cycle. Start in one place, and that needs doing again before you get to the last place!

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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #82 on: December 13, 2012, 02:27:10 PM »
Does anyone else feel as though they're not getting anywhere with decluttering? I can see the bag of clothing to donate/recycle filling up, but the drawers I'm going through look just as full as before.

There are places I know I'm making progress--notably my bedroom closet--but the lack of apparent progress isn't helping me here.

Oh sure, sometimes. I've done some decluttering in several places lately (thanks, thread!) but my goodness, you wouldn't know it to look at my place. But, I know I did it, and I feel better knowing that what's left is stuff I really want to keep, and that it has a little more breathing room in its storage space and is less likely to be damaged. Honestly if I had a hole I could see I would probably just think, "Whoo! I can get more stuff now!" and fill it up.  ::)
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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #83 on: December 13, 2012, 02:35:48 PM »
For some of us it's also that we have had parents give away things of theirs because "so and so wanted it" really? what makes so and so - so much more worthy of my stuff than I am?  At this point I next to never give things away, because I resent the idea that others can have my stuff but I can't.  My mom says she wanted to teach sharing,,,what she taught was "you need to hide and defend anything you care about because someone is always more worthy than you."
 
  I have several friends whose parents did the same thing - with similar results.

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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #84 on: December 13, 2012, 04:30:43 PM »
I'm in a 'transition' phase, I just finished school and am starting to look for a job, right now I'm still living with my parents but that's likely to change in a few months so it's the perfect time to purge.
I was in art school, so over the years I gathered lots of stuff that I used/could use in my projects, little bits of doodads and odds and ends. I won't throw away what is usable 'prime' art supplies (paint, papers..) I've had to pay for it! but I've started asking myself if I'm really going to use that or if I really need that empty box of tic-tacs...
My objective is to have a room that will most likely be turned into a guest room, where people can spend the night in an 'half neutral/half carotte's' environment.
It helps that I'm starting to hate things that are too cluttered. My parents have tons of useless stuff, collections and stuff from places we've been to or lived, paintings.. And that I've always been kind of frugal with my money, I don't have much stuff or they are little, I can mull over buying something for even months before deciding if I really want it or not.
I think I might try allowing myself to have x number of shirts, x number of pants, sweaters,... I don't have that much clothes compared to some girls my age but it's still a bit overwhelming at times, and I end up using always the same ones.

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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #85 on: December 13, 2012, 04:36:46 PM »
Does anyone else feel as though they're not getting anywhere with decluttering? I can see the bag of clothing to donate/recycle filling up, but the drawers I'm going through look just as full as before.

There are places I know I'm making progress--notably my bedroom closet--but the lack of apparent progress isn't helping me here.

Sometimes my drawers go from completely overstuffed full to just comfortably full, so it doesn't look like you've done much, but it's just easier to get stuff in and out, which is a bonus.

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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #86 on: December 13, 2012, 04:54:55 PM »
For some of us it's also that we have had parents give away things of theirs because "so and so wanted it" really? what makes so and so - so much more worthy of my stuff than I am?  At this point I next to never give things away, because I resent the idea that others can have my stuff but I can't.  My mom says she wanted to teach sharing,,,what she taught was "you need to hide and defend anything you care about because someone is always more worthy than you."
 
  I have several friends whose parents did the same thing - with similar results.
This sounds so, so familiar. Clothes I could, and still do, care less about, but I have many memories of beloved childhood possessions going to younger sibs and cousins. I remember hiding things under the drawer of a desk before a purge.
Suddenly my current cluttered state is making sense...
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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #87 on: December 13, 2012, 08:00:38 PM »
Does anyone else feel as though they're not getting anywhere with decluttering? I can see the bag of clothing to donate/recycle filling up, but the drawers I'm going through look just as full as before.

There are places I know I'm making progress--notably my bedroom closet--but the lack of apparent progress isn't helping me here.

Sometimes my drawers go from completely overstuffed full to just comfortably full, so it doesn't look like you've done much, but it's just easier to get stuff in and out, which is a bonus.

Yes, exactly, this is what happened to me. I went through one of my drawers and pulled quite a lot out the other day. If you look at it right now, you'd say it was full. But, it's no longer OVER-full, to the point where I had to push on things just to close it. Every little bit counts, in my opinion! :)
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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #88 on: December 14, 2012, 08:20:49 AM »
Does anyone else feel as though they're not getting anywhere with decluttering? I can see the bag of clothing to donate/recycle filling up, but the drawers I'm going through look just as full as before.

There are places I know I'm making progress--notably my bedroom closet--but the lack of apparent progress isn't helping me here.

Sometimes my drawers go from completely overstuffed full to just comfortably full, so it doesn't look like you've done much, but it's just easier to get stuff in and out, which is a bonus.

Yes, exactly, this is what happened to me. I went through one of my drawers and pulled quite a lot out the other day. If you look at it right now, you'd say it was full. But, it's no longer OVER-full, to the point where I had to push on things just to close it. Every little bit counts, in my opinion! :)

Yep! (Now I’m getting motivated to clean out my overfull t-shirt drawer. Too bad I’m at work)

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Re: Why do people find it so hard to get rid of "stuff".
« Reply #89 on: December 18, 2012, 10:31:53 AM »
This summer, while the boys were at Philmont, I did a huge purge and had a driveway load of stuff that a charity truck picked up, plus two vanloads to drop off, plus a vanload of recycling.
We have more receipts of charitable donations of stuff than this year than other years, but I still have so much stuff!
part of it is that I no longer have a classroom, but still have my teaching supplies and such. 
Still...
I really should not have so much stuff.  no matter that almost all of the stuff was bought 2ndhand.

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