I realize how very lame this could sound, but I promise you this really isn't about me and my dogs when I say "friend". It really just isn't one of those situations where I am afraid to admit it is me.
I have a friend on Facebook who will on occasion post about how her neighbor's dog will continuously bark and how the neighbor will do nothing about it. My friend (LB) also has a dog and will, when the dog barks, immediately bring it inside (FWIW, Mental Boyfriend and I also have this policy; friend and I frequently share dog raising tips). LB has to be able to let her dog out but she feels it is discourteous to allow her dog to bark at her neighbor's dog (and vice versa) when the neighbor's dog is out. However, she feels resentment that her neighbor does nothing about her dog barking, too, and won't try to do anything to curb the dog's barking. To put it a bit more simply, neighbor doesn't care how much her dog barks and will leave it out regardless while NB doesn't want her dog to bark and bother other people so will bring in her dog when it barks. At the same time, LB wants to be able to let out her dog when it needs to go out. This has been, apparently, going on for more than a year.
LB feels like she is taking on all of the responsibility of being courteous to those around her and that her neighbor is shirking the responsibility. I have told her to approach her neighbor about the incessant barking, but she isn't sure how or that how I advise her to will work/is appropriate. Does E-Hell have any suggestions?
If I can clarify better, please ask; I am not always as clear as I think I am.