There is a situation that has come up and the way that I want to deal with it certainly isn’t e-hell approved so I’m putting this out here to hopefully get some much more appropriate advice.
About a month ago, we had a new neighbor (Peeping Tammy) move in to the apartment next to us. I’ve had an insane schedule this past month so my husband was actually the first to meet her and I didn’t have a run in with her until two weeks ago and our first meeting left a bad taste in my mouth. Tammy is an older woman and from what DH said he’d helped her with some groceries a couple of times and has held the elevator for her so they’ve made some idle chit chat. I didn’t really think anything of it since we have a few older people in our building and DH goes out of his way to help most of them and they’re all really wonderful.
Well one Friday night, DH was taking a shower and there was a knock on our door. I got up and opened it to find a strange woman wearing something very inappropriate and holding a plate of cookies. The woman was as shocked to see me as I was her because as soon as she saw me the smile slipped from her face and she started interrogating me.
Strange Lady: Who are you?
Me: You knocked on my door. Who are you?
Lady: I’m Tammy, the new neighbor in [apartment #]. Are you [DH] sister?
Me: No…I’m his wife. It’s nice to meet you Tammy.
Lady: Oh, I didn’t know he had a wife. (A natural assumption considering we hardly ever wear our wedding rings). My, aren’t you a tiny young thing?
Me: Um… Can I help you with something?
Lady: Oh, I just brought these cookies to thank [DH] for helping me with my groceries.
Now this little meeting left me scratching my head but it wouldn’t have bothered me if it wasn’t for the fact that she keeps trying to ‘bump’ into DH. She’s knocked on our door and asked DH if he could help her install her entertainment system and he said that I would probably be happy to help since I’ve set up all of our systems and he’s useless with electronics. She said never mind and went back home but she’s always popping up with some request specifically for him.
Fine, she has a crush on him that’s no big deal. Plenty of women have had a crush on DH and it doesn’t really bother me. What does bother me is when she starts pestering him while he’s working out.
DH is an exercise fiend and he has his gym set up on our balcony. DH likes working out in the morning or even very late at night after a long day and he is very into weight lifting. What really irked me is when DH was lifting some pretty heavy weights, Tammy went out in her balcony in a robe and started “Yoo Hoo”-ing at him trying to get his attention while he was trying to focus. These are heavy weights and you don’t distract someone while they’re lifting because it could lead to them really hurting themselves. Every time DH goes out to exercise Tammy will be out there trying to strike up a conversation or even cat calling and wolf whistling at him. No small feat considering out balconies are about 30 feet away.
I wasn’t sure why this bothered me so much but I realized that if the genders were switched and it was an older man basically harassing a young woman while she was trying to exercise I would be absolutely furious. DH really doesn’t like the interruptions and he’s trying to ignore her but she isn’t taking the hint. Is there an e-hell approved way to tell her to back off and that her actions aren’t okay?