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donnamos2:
I've got a two-part problem, and really need the board's collective wisdom since I don't think bean-dip will solve it.

In the past year, I moved to a new neighborhood.  It's taken a while to get to know the neighbors, but one family down the street made quite an impression. They have a teenage daughter, and they've gone out of their way to let me know that she's always looking for babysitting jobs. Great, good, but I've never really called her, since my family and my ex-in-laws tend to be available and, well, I know them. Still, they frequently remind me.

I hired a local college student (CS) about a month ago to be a part-time nanny. (As the neighbor teen can't drive, this is not the issue.)  The job requirements are pretty simple: pick up Babymoss at the pre-school/daycare at 3, take her to her afternoon activities (tumbling, dance, music, art), take her home, and play with/watch her until I get home between 5 and 6.  There have been a few ruffled feathers on both sides of this arrangement, but I thought we were finally settling into a good routine when CS announced that she had to change sections of a required class, so she would have to leave right at 5 twice a week to commute back to school to attend this class.  Well, stuff happens, but this is something I had made clear at the beginning that I wasn't about to accomodate. The job is M-F, 2:45 to 6:00, and if you aren't available then, then you can't do the job. And it isn't like I didn't have other applicants, so when she told me this, I told her that it was too bad, but it wouldn't work and thanks and maybe a few semesters down the road, we might be able to work together.

But wait! CS told me that it was all taken care of! CS herself contacted neighbor teen about the issue, and neighbor teen is MORE THAN HAPPY to come on those two days and fill in, and neighbor teen ONLY charges $15/hour.  And CS wondered why I wasn't thrilled to be told that she made arrangements to have a kid I don't know in my house watching Babymoss and costing me $30/week. 

So, I've had to fire CS, which even if her schedule hadn't changed, I would have done for her egregious overstepping.  But how do I approach the neighbors and their teenage daughter? This is going to be an awkward conversation, but I want to remain on good and friendly terms.  So how do I go about it?

Eden:
Can you just say the job you need is for someone who drives but you appreciate her offering to help?

Sidenote: I may have been out of the game for awhile, but $15/hour? Is that normal?

WillyNilly:
"Hi neighbors!  I'm so sorry about the misunderstanding, but the nanny who tried to hire you actually no longer works for me.  I do wish teenager daughter had a car & license, as I would have been more then happy to interview her for the nanny position, but as of right now what I really need is one consistent person Mondays through Fridays 2:45 to 6:00 who can pick up and drop off DD.  I absolutely will bear daughter in mind for future gigs though, like if we have a family wedding to attend on a weekend or something.  Thanks so much for understanding, I do apologize for the nanny over stepping."

despedina:
I would think you just say that you did not authorize CS to hire their teen, and that CS did not speak to you prior to doing that. Acknowledge with the teen's parents that this is very awkward, but that you will be making other arrangements.

doodlemor:

--- Quote from: WillyNilly on December 05, 2012, 05:19:39 PM ---"Hi neighbors!  I'm so sorry about the misunderstanding, but the nanny who tried to hire you actually no longer works for me.  I do wish teenager daughter had a car & license, as I would have been more then happy to interview her for the nanny position, but as of right now what I really need is one consistent person Mondays through Fridays 2:45 to 6:00 who can pick up and drop off DD.  I absolutely will bear daughter in mind for future gigs though, like if we have a family wedding to attend on a weekend or something.  Thanks so much for understanding, I do apologize for the nanny over stepping."

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Perfect.

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