At Christmas, my DH's family uses a Secret Santa system for adult gift giving. Only one of the siblings has children. The kids open gifts from their grandparents and their parents. Sometimes the aunts and uncles give the children gifts, but not always.
When asked what his children might appreciate as gifts this year, DH's brother responded with an email listing some very expensive gifts for the kids. All four of them are into sports. Each kid has one to two major gift desires, and each gift request is probably about $300 but he didn't really specifically say how much. DH's brother asked all of us how much we wanted to pitch in, saying that he and his wife would pitch in the rest.
The email feels weird to me, and I don't know where to pin it on the etiquette spectrum. On the one hand, I think the grandparents and any willing and able aunts and uncles will pay what they would have for another gift. On the other hand, do the kids really only want extremely expensive stuff, or is that the stuff that the parents are hoping someone else will fund?
I'd love some insight into this.