My apologies for starting my own thread so quickly after joining, but I'm in a real pickle. I invited some people to a little gettogether this Friday. Nothing fancy, but we were with 2 organisators.
/BG. I have this friend (let's call him Arno) who always plans everything. His girlfriend Tessa was saying to me how she wishes someone else would do it from time to time. As luck would have it another mutual friend (Tim) and I already were thinking about doing just that. eng BG/
/BG 2. A couple of months ago I went city tripping with Tessa and Suzanne. Suzanne and I are very different people and what I feared could happen, did indeed happen. I was very frustrated with her after this trip. I recognized that it wasn't anyone's fault and that it's better for us to just meet for a couple of hours at a time instead of a couple of days. So I took a huge step backwards because if I didn't, my frustrations would have just grown for no reason. End BG2./
Now, Tim and Suzanne are not friends. They do know each other socially, but would never ever do something together. This coupled with me knowing that there was a little bit of disagreement between Suzanne and Arno, when we were talking about whom to invite, I didn't say Suzanne.
So we made a facebookinvite (private, so no one who isn't actually invited can see it) and what happens.... Arno invites Suzanne (and another guy whom neither Tim nor I know! Tim has never even seen this other guy and I have met him once.)
While I'm annoyed with Arno for this, I don't think he really has been in the position of being the invitee instead of the invitor before and don't feel like I can tell him that it's inappropiate. Especially because he's more Tim's friend and I'm actually friends with Tessa.
But now I got several text from Suzanne asking me if I would mind if she would come because she noticed I didn't invite her. I answered with "Tim and I decided together, but go ahead" and she asked me again if I wouldn't mind and then I said "I didn't think you'd know these people, but do what you want". (A little parafrased).
And now on facebook she has been putting the same remark over and over again namely: "I'm coming if Isilleke lets me". I have consequently been deleting these and it appears Facebook has been telling her now she can't post.
But I'm seriously peeved because of this. I feel that Arno has put me in a difficult spot for doing something that wasn't his to do, but Suzanne even more so because of stating the same over and over again.
How can I handle this best? At the moment I'm just ignoring her and making sure that that comment doesn't stay up. I already know I will have to spend New Years Eve with her (it's at Arno and Tessa's house) so I can't make this a big deal, but I honestly don't plan on making any more contact with her after that.
If anyone wants more details, just ask, but I have the feeling it's already pretty long as it is.