By way of update, a couple nights ago, my friend drove out to her cousin’s to talk about the restaurant incident. Friend suggested they go out to a restaurant or lounge, but cousin did not feel like going out. Friend explained she wants to talk uninterrupted. Cousin assured her they would be alone as the husband would not be home for hours because he is working late.
Just as friend begins to speak, the phone rang. Cousin excuses herself and answered the phone. It is her husband. She spends a few minutes on the phone with him and comes back and says, “that’s funny, husband is coming home now – he finished early”. Friend is panicked, but just bit the bullet and told the entire story to cousin. Friend said cousin just sat and stared into space. After a few minutes, friend got a glass of water, cousin took it and threw it against the fireplace and started bawling. Friend asked if cousin wanted to come home with her, cousin went upstairs to pack some clothes.
Friend is now nervous because husband is on his way home and she wants out of there before he makes it. Cousin brings her bag down and they head for the door, but suddenly sets the bag down and says she wants to wait for husband. Friend says perhaps she should leave so they can talk privately. This is where it gets weird. Cousin told friend she is rude for “dropping a bomb” and not staying to back it up. Friend said she can most definitely stay to back up anything she told her, but thought cousin would want her privacy. They went through three rounds of this.
Just then, husband’s car pulls up and cousin tells friend in a stern voice, “stay”. Friend sits on the couch and husband bounds in yelling, “WHAT DID YOU TELL HER, YOU’RE RUDE FOR COMING OVER HERE MEDDLING, GET OUT OF MY HOUSE”. Cousin and husband get into an awful row, verbal only, but really intense. Friend asks cousin if she still wants to leave with her, if not, she is leaving herself. Husband starts yelling obscenities and says, “NO, IM LEAVING”. After he left, friend goes to cousin to hug and cousin shirks her off saying, “thanks for wrecking my marriage”.
With this, friend left. She is chalking up her cousin’s behavior to shock. This was two nights ago. Friend has left several messages and sent several texts to cousin, but has gotten no response.
I am there for friend, she is really distraught over this whole situation.
Is it rude of her to keep calling and texting her cousin? She is really concerned about her. Would it be rude of friend to go back out to cousin’s house to check on her?