Hey folks! OP here.
The time difference, sleep deprivation and taken by surprise meant that DH wasn't quick enough on his feet when informed of the flight schedule, so I think that ship has sailed. He's staying here for the three weeks, and I think I just need to get past it this time and learn for next. Forewarned is forearmed, as they say. However, thank you for making it ok for me not to be as tolerant of nonsense now as I have been in the past. You're all right, my child (less than 2 months) is now my priority. DH has my back, but he'll be in work a lot of the time. He saw how his dad behaves towards me on the last visit, so things will start changing, I think.
MiL may not be coming now. We didn't give in to her hints or PA behaviour regarding the visit, so she has decided not to visit. Oh well.
A few more questions. I should never be secretary of defence, because I will default to the nuclear option when stressed or faced with conflict. e.g. If FiL starts moaning about being kept awake at night, I may throw him out. Any ideas how to avoid escalating a mole hill to the height of a space station?
What do if he won't listen to what I say for the baby, if he needs to sleep for example, or if FiL avoids giving the baby back?
Last one, but one I worry about, what if it gets to the stage where he needs to go, but refuses to leave? I can see me saying, "right, that's enough, this isn't working, please leave." and the response is "no." ...where do i go from there?
Thank you for taking the time to read and reply!