Etiquette School is in session! > "What an interesting assumption."

Don't you know your own name?

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I get this as well. My last name (of German descent) is a homonym with a word in the English language. People will try and spell it out, and when I politely correct them, a few have had the audacity to ask, "Are you sure?" Oh no, I've only been saying it since I was two and writing it since I was five, but I truly have no bleeping idea how to spell it.  >:D Of course, that is not an Etiquette Hell-approved response, so I grin and bear it and simply say, "Yes, I'm sure." ;)


--- Quote from: Goodness on January 27, 2013, 06:59:25 PM ---The assumptions about names can actually be helpful in weeding out those who pretend they know you -- usually telemarketers -- from those who really do. My father's name was Jack. That wasn't a nickname; his name was Jack. And his last name was Holman. This caused no end of confusion. When he got a (frequent) call from someone asking for "John Coleman" he'd just say "Since you obviously don't know my name, I see no reason to talk to you." And he'd hang up.

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My aunt does something like that. Her birth name is "Sue Smith". After her divorce several decades ago she returned to being "Sue Smith". So now whenever she gets calls for Mrs. Smith, she just says that they have the wrong number....

This has been happening to me at work on a near-weekly basis:

Me (answering phone):  "Thank you for calling <company>, this is Rosemary, how can I help you?"
Them:  "Hi, Rose, <blahblahblah>."

People. Just. Don't. LISTEN.  Every time it happens I want to reach through the phone and strangle people.  My name is NOT Rose.  It is indeed a perfectly good name, but it does not belong to me.

LadyTango and I are currently in the process of buying a house, and as a result we have had to provide our last name to quite a number of different people/organizations.

LadyTango mentioned to me that when providing our last name, she spells it first, then pronounces it.

Our last name is similar to a well-known regional corporation, but with an extra letter (that is barely pronounced).

In my extended family, we have someone who is just Jimmy and someone who is just Billy. Not James and William. No one believes this.

It honestly takes a lot of audacity to argue with someone about their own name. You might try a bit of role reversal on them. "Oh, your name is Susan? Are you sure it's not short for Susanna?".

But the more polite way would be a firm "Yes, I'm sure." Repeated until they get the point.

For comedic effect "I suppose it's possible my parents have been lying to me for the last 20 years and they named me Mary Louise, but they seem like such nice people I think we'll give them the benefit of the doubt."


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